Never trust the Vietnamese.

_________________
" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, you've done well till now.

Now, you have to focus on building comfort and attraction with her. Don't get too hasty and ask her out before you've built enough of those, otherwise you will, without a doubt, get rejected.

Keep the conversation fun and light, since you're just getting to know each other, also ask her questions, as much as possible, but don't make it sound like you're interviewing her. Show to her that you're genuinely interested in knowing things about her, and flirt with her, if you see the window of that opportunity.

Basically, talk to her as much as you can, use subtle kino like touching her shoulder, touching her forearm and all that.. and most importantly, if you're inviting her for coffee don't ask, tell.

"Hey! I'm feeling for a coffee. Why don't you join me?"

That's saying, "I'm going for a coffee. With you or without you. Your choice to tag along, if you want my company." Gives you the higher frame, gives her the choice, either way your action doesn't depend on her answer. Comprende?

Good luck.

And thanks for thinking of me.

_________________
" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, there's a simple rule in pick-up.

"If you can't see it, then you shouldn't worry about it."

Her boyfriend isn't any of your concern. Building attraction, developing an easy rapport and establishing a comfort level with her are.

So, why don't you focus on that?

Let me tell you, that from my personal experience, if you have got a thing going with her which in her head is much, much better than the thing she's got going with her guy, she will leave him. And you won't have to take any part in that drama either.

Well, focus on your game. Don't worry about 'what if', 'but she' and all those variables. Okay?

Have a good time with her and game her as you would, with any other single woman you've come across.

Good luck.

_________________
" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Hey Don!!! So there's a married women in my building and I met her at some wine tasting event last week, told her to come out with us that night and ended up hooking up w/ her or whatever. Ok don't judge me, I wasn't the one who's married and I don't even know her family..turns out she has a son or daughter who's my age! And she was coming on to me the entire night, she's the one who started talking to me too. Anyway I texted her yesterday, which was a week later and she hasn't replied. I just asked her if she was in town and wanted to go out again this weekend. Maybe it was a little shady of me to ask, and maybe she's regretting the whole thing cuz she's married with kids. You think I should text her one more time or just forget about it? If so what would you text?

_________________
Some people are like slinkys, not really good for anything but make you smile when you push them down the stairs.

Thanks. So I sent her just a "normal" message like this, and also asking her if she went to the movies the other day to see a new documentary about her intellectual heroine.

"Yes, I did! Thought it was good, but also quite sad as it focused on how devastating the unfair criticism was for her. I wish she was still alive, so that I could give her a big hug and say THANKS! Have an excellent evening "

How can I make the most of this one? How about

"I'm sure she would appreciate that Unless your big hug would kill the 106 year old. Anyway, she's dead, so you'll have to save the hug for someone else "

Thanks for the reply Don. Very appreciated advice. I will continue to text her and see how far I can go with this.

Hi so i texted this girl for a couple of weeks and everything was going ok (she started calling me by pet names and everything) then i set up a date she flakes but gives proper justification i bust her balls about it and tell her she has to pay for the next date she does invite but flakes again and i saw her personally (little kino and some good old fun) and wen i did i told her i would trade her for another girl (like a pokemon or something along those lines) she laughed said it was impossible she was irreplaceable the next day she texts me saying my perfume stayed in her nose and it was nice. I said thanks but watever i gotta go talk to you latter and didnt't say anything else.
2 days latter she texts me with Hi mr Blackcat i come to wish you a good night because you apparently don't remember to wish me one, i do. HMMMMPH. kisses sleep well
what should i reply with and how can i get her to stop flaking

Hello.

Now, let me begin by telling you that there's a lot of crazy things that I have personally done, including going for married women, but I've never pulled that trigger completely. In retrospect, for my own good.

Look, married women are where we should draw the line. Sure, she might have come on to you and I'll even give you the benefit of doubt for this interaction, but her marriage and it's problems aren't any of your concerns. Don't even go near her kids and all that.

There are about 250 million single, beautiful women on the planet. Don't go after the married ones. I've read and heard about enough cases where that "affair", if you may, turned out ugly if not for both, then definitely for the guy.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tw5LaEzEcJw[/youtube]

_________________
" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, you seem to have it under control by the look of it.

So, believe in yourself and your game. It's the best feeling when you've secured her affections on your own, trust me.

And I'd only say, don't tell her she might kill the poor old lady, even if as a joke. Women are sensitive about their 'favorites'.

Good luck. And thanks for thinking of me.

_________________
" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, happy to help.

And good luck. Keep me posted on how this one went down.

_________________
" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, she's obviously into you, so that's not a bad thing.

Women flake most times because of the single reason : lack of comfort. She just might not be comfortable with you enough to be seen out with you, by herself.

So, instead of feeling down about it why don't you take that as a challenge? Go ahead, message her, call her, meet her and focus on creating comfort and attraction, as much as you can with her. Don't even bring up going out. Just focus on the process, and trust me, she will take care of the outcome on her own.

Just reply with a, "I didn't say 'Goodnight'? That was a mistake. 'Night, babe. "

Good luck.

_________________
" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Hey Don,
I'll keep this brief. So last night I went out to the downtown area and was at this club. I near the bar area and I felt a push. I turn and its this HB8 looking around the floor for something she dropped. I go to her and was like what are you looking for. She lost her phone. So I was helping her look for it and was like here whats your #? Call your phone and see who has it. bla bla bla bla

So I text her today saying:

me: this might sound silly but who is this? I see this # in my call history

Her: lmao I see the same in mine...Natasha

me: Natasha?? Hmmm I'm Paul. I dont think I know you but nice to meet you
so how do we figure out how your # got in my cell lol

Her: do you kno Rayven?


bla bla bla

So we figure out that I was the guy helping her find her phone.

The txt ended with

Her: LOL OMG I know who you are

Me: Well I'm glad you have your phone back. It could have fallen into the wrong hands lol
------------------------------

How should I follow up with this?

Hey Don,

So there is still this girl who I met on holiday, where we made out 3 times on 3 different days when we were going out. I have been texting and skyping (she asked me to get SPAM for her) with her for a couple of weeks now but we still haven't been able to actually meet in real again. (we don't live very close, an hour by train)

So today I sent her a text:

"Hey, I really need to you see again soon! xx"

Her answer:

"In real life or SPAM? :)x"

Me:

"In real life!"

She:

"Aah and why? xx"

That answer really made me pretty speechless and I'm not really sure what she means with it, but I answered with "Because it's been so long since I last saw you duh.." I'm not sure if that was the right answer but I didn't get an answer to that anymore. She did started talking on facebook again but the conversation was rather short and boring, I'm having trouble to keep convo interesting and can't find any good topics to talk about, I have the feeling I need to meet her again!

Any suggestions?

Thanks!

Hey Don,

I met a girl while I was out last thursday, we flirted for about 15-20 mins and had great chemistry. I wanted to stay chatting but had to leave to meet my friends so I got her number. I hate texting and struggle knowing what to put but really want to meet this girl. I text her the next day in the evening and this is how it went.

Me: Hey _____ sexy politics girl it's Kier(what she saved herself as in my phone) What you up to over the weekend?

Her: Why hello there Kier the third year politics boy um, not sure yet, some work and club night tomorrow night. Yourself? xx

Me: I'm seeing ghostpoet tomorrow and cooking a house sunday dinner. I think I can be a fun distraction from your work.

Her: Oh very nice, what're you cooking? Haha and how are you going to do that?

Me: Chicken, mash, roasts, pigs in blankets, yorkies the full works. I'm gonna charm you through text, talk about you're beautiful eyes and allude to us going for a drink but first I've got to eat my dinner.

Her: Wow I'm very impressed, are you cooking it all yourself from scratch? Haha, very smooth! You eat your tea then I'm watching In Brouge

Me: Ye all from scratch, I really like to cook. I'm going to the pub with house mastes so won't be able to text. I'll text you to sort out a drink and we can get to know each other better. Enjoy your film.

Her: Thanks, have fun at the pub

This was over the course of two hours, she replied very fast but I couldn't text back that quick because I was cooking. I really want to meet up with this girl but not sure about the best way to go about it. I haven't texted her since friday. Any thoughts on how I did, how I could improve, what to text next and how best to go about meeting up with her would be great thanks.

Well, you broke the ice with the first interaction, so kudos for that.

Now, why don't you start by building attraction with her, that seems like the basic route to go from here.

To her, you're still "that guy from the bar", she needs to change that tag to your name. You get it? She needs to be comfortable and open to your presence in her life.

So, start texting her, and initially, make the larger efforts. She's a woman, she's got plenty of guys vying for her attention, you need to set yourself apart from the rest. Through your texts and calls, eventually.

Keep texting, ask her questions, get her to open up, and repeat the same from your side. It should be a two-way street.

Good luck.

P.S. Don't get disheartened if she seems a little cold initially, she's just upped her shields. Remain determined and she'll put them down, all in due time.

_________________
" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "