The thing here is that "limbo" is the keyword. At some level, even those women are aware that when you contact them, it's when you are free.

In some way, they feel as if you are "settling" with them for that night and time. You need to make them feel that you actually "want" them on those days. That they are important and you felt an incredible urge to see them. That's the thing you need to get across in their minds.

Also, remember that you need to create an environment in sync with the outcome you are hoping for. If you want the night to end in between the covers, create a sexually charged SPAM. The more successful you are in making her feel the way you want her to, the more easily she'll hand herself over to you.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Now, now.

You're implying that you think of her only when you're bored. That's not a good feeling to give someone.

Her excitement and to some degree, happiness was obvious in her initial reply when she called it the "best thing ever!". Even if it was a joke, it was still said in a good light.

You HAVE to make her associate good, fun feelings when she thinks of you. For that you need to keep things light and fun. Give her an occasional compliment. Tease her a bit. Flirt outright with her, when you want.

And also, keep the conversation flowing as long as you can. The more she talks to you, the more comfortable she'll get with you.

And you're always welcome to ask more and more queries.

Cheers.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Hot girl from club.

She acts interested.

I get her number. Text her and start busting on her. She takes some but mostly acts like she is sad and offended(shittests). Ovb. i didnt back down and kept going. We were suppose to meet up, she texts me

Her: Are we still on?
Me: yea
Her: ok
....blah blah
I said something about her being a baby(she's insecure about being independent)
Her: Fuck you
Me: I'm flattered, but i don't know you well enough
Her: uhmm, yea you wish..
Me: haha, don't confuse me with the guys u been with.
Her: Why

what would you reply to that

I feel like I did tell her. I could see where I said "why don't you" instead of "I want you to", I'll keep that in mind. Good point.

Now the question is what should I text her considering that she blew me off; while projecting an "I'm the prize" mindset and "I'm trying to fit YOU into my schedule" mindset without seeming needy?

Thanks for the help!

I recently met a girl at a party and I got her number, and last thursday I went on a date with her and sure it didn't went all to well nor to bad. However the issue is that she rarely answer on sms and when she does it's usually just a very short message but when I met her in reality she is very social and she's also social whenever you call her.
So should I still send her messages? She never send the "first" message but she is quite shy.

Ah snap! I see what you mean. I didn't wanna sound desperate or too serious when i said "thinkin about eachother all day" so I was kinda pulling back. As for keeping things light and fun, I think I've been doing that pretty well with her. She's always excited to see me and we always have a good time together. I try to maintain the touching and flirting too, and it seems kinda mutual. I think she is comfortable with me at this point.

So this is not a texting question, but just asking for general advice. I sort of like this girl and I wouldn't mind dating her. I'm not really sure how to ask her out lol. I'm afraid if I straight up tell her how i feel, she might refuse and she's gonna have the upper hand and I'll lose my confidence with her. But I wouldn't be devastated, this isn't a 1itis problem, so maybe it's better to go for it sooner than later. Any advice? thnx

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Some people are like slinkys, not really good for anything but make you smile when you push them down the stairs.

She's asking you to qualify yourself. Don't bother. Try "I guess you'll just have to see "

Don't neg too much though, especially if she doesn't deserve it.

To Don Draper, thanks for the advice, I agree that I had the wrong mentality, I appreciate it.

So I worked with this girl last summer and she had a boyfriend at the time. We got along well but always friendly. She left to go back to school after the summer was over and I got dinner with her once when she was in town but still just friendly. So she's in town permanently now and I haven't really seen her in a few months. She texts me about 2 weeks ago to say we should hang out in a couple weeks when things calm down at work. I was on vacation at the time so a couple days ago she writes

"hey you back? Let's hang out" to which I reply "sure, when are you free?" she says "never but I'll make time" which sounded promising so I tell we should grab drinks on Thursday.

She ends up cancelling on me at the last minute because of work and says she feels terrible so I ask her if she's free this weekend. She says yes and that she's on a recent break with her boyfriend so she has plenty of free time which makes things more interesting. I'm not a fan of Saturdays so I ask her to meet for brunch on Sunday. She says, "sweet sounds good" and I tell her I'll come up with something and let her know. So I text her last night asking her to meet me at 1:30 tomorrow. It's been over 24 hours now and I haven't heard from her. Not sure where I might have effed up and whether I should ask her again or just let it be and wait for her to write me. Seems odd given that she instigated this whole thing.

And how would one go about doing that??

I always, always hit them with the direct reply.

" 'Cause I am different. Is that impossible?"

Always address the issue head on, and flip it back on her.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, you can just tell her about a time and place that you'll be frequenting at the said day and just say that she can join you, you'll appreciate that and well, you can't be sure when you'll get the next free opportunity to hang out due to your schedule and commitments.

Always welcome, man.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, some people are just not that comfortable, if that might be said, with texting. They prefer to have every interaction in person.

You can either roll with that, considering she's a bit 'shy' when it comes to texting, or even better you can always call her, when she's got the time. Hoping that she's not as shy when it comes to talking on the phone, as she is with regards to typing.

Cheers.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, take it from me. When it comes to telling her how you feel about her, if she doesn't take the hint from your actions.

Be direct.

" Hey (her name), I just feel that there is something you need to know here. I am attracted to you. And it's not secret lying in a treasure box somewhere at the bottom of some ocean. I have no shame in admitting the truth."

That will make you come off as a honest man who is in control of his feelings and more importantly, is not afraid to admit the truth. Women want men who aren't afraid or coy about admitting these things. Be honest. Be direct. That gives the best outcome for everyone involved.

Good Luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Always glad to help, man.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, for all you know she might not feel as ready as she said, and now she's backing out.

Don't contact her. At all.

And if she tries to get in touch. Be a little curt and formal in your replies.

She should know that you are not very happy with her conduct of the whole situation.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "