So, I'm one of those digital nomad guys, travelling around and working off my computer. My income source? I write and publish erotica and romance fiction.

Inevitably, the topic of "what do you do" comes up in conversation, and while I feel like it's a no-brainer that talk of my job is, in and of itself, a great way to build a sexual vibe, I've for some reason been struggling to incorporate it in an effective manner.

To this point, I've mostly disarmed the topic by treating it as a rather mundane aspect of my life and re-focusing on a different topic. Of course, this is hardly the best tack to take. I've got this brilliant sexual conversation piece built into my everyday life, and I'm failing to capitalize.

I wanted to get you guys' opinion on how I might utilize this to sexually escalate the conversation...

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If the dream is won
Though everything is lost
We will pay the price,
But we will not count the cost.
-Rush

Own it, man.

Just say you're a writer. A lot of chicks love artsy guys...

What do you write? Some of the finest soft core porn and erotica out there. Hell you could even pick a juicy sample line from one of your stories for after you tell her and the girl says "No way, Really!?"

One thing I like to do on dates is people watch... And make up dialogues for them with the girl I'm with (depends on the girl, depends on the spot - this isn't always appropriate). A good gag might be to try that and substitute in some saucy erotica talk...

I dunno - just a couple ideas. Other members may have better ones, but no one had replied yet so I thought I'd start it off.

Thanks for the reply, man

If I made it sound as if I fail to own the fact that I'm a writer--and an erotic romance writer at that--that was my fault for not being clear. I absolutely own the fact that I'm a writer. That, of course, always leads to being asked what i write about, and then the big reveal.

Now, in a few cases, especially with online game, it organically leads towards sexual conversation, sexting, etc. More frequently, however, and especially in face-to-face encounters, it leads to an interesting, but thoroughly un-sexy conversation about the nuts-n-bolts of how I make my business work.

I believe the biggest problem here is that the subject of "what do you do" almost always comes up early in the conversation, when you're trying to build comfort and rapport; however, attempting to capitalize on my profession would be part of the sexualizing phase of the interaction, which comes later. I can't find a way to reconcile that.

It seems like such a damn goldmine (also a potential landmine), but I feel like it would be disconcerting to just launch into fabricated sexual dialogues shortly after meeting someone.

I could always just reinvent myself as an overtly sexual being from the start of the interaction and when I talk about my work, be like, "Why do you think I'm talking to you? I'm hoping to get some research done tonight?" Wink wink, nudge nudge.

Actually..... that's not a terrible idea.... hahaha

_________________
If the dream is won
Though everything is lost
We will pay the price,
But we will not count the cost.
-Rush

Depending on the situation you can twist the truth a bit.
If you're not expecting anything long term I say you blow things up a bit, she doesn't need to know everything just make it sound good. You write stories bring this skill into your game and weave stories around them.
Most of the time they don't care what you do. They care more about how well you're doing $.
You don't want to brag, you just want her to have an Idea that you're doing very well.
Keep her guessing feed her bits and pieces you don't want them to know everything about you, you'll lose the "Wow" factor or the mysterious feel. Flex!