Hi everyone,

First time here and it looks pretty interesting. Recently I've started to focus on building up my game as I'm in a position in my life where I have the potential to really make something of it.

Previously I would normally have posted on a dating forum or something similar but I get the feeling this will be more appropriate. I'm looking for some help with my current situation and I'll give you the facts as I fear I may already have screwed it up but not too sure, so here it is:

Arranged a date with an attractive girl (7) who is fairly local to me, through Tinder, and we got on well. No awkward silences or anything, and left with a kiss on the cheek. I already had her number and she found me on SPAM so we started using that instead, and she also asked to find/add me on fb. We both work in the same industry (I'm a Pilot 21yo, she is Cabin Crew 19yo) but for different airlines so our schedules seem to clash somewhat, however we did meet up again 4/5 days later.

I don't know if I made a mistake here or not as I invited her over to my parents house (was empty) during the day, and had some wine as that is what she drinks. We watched tv and chatted until we got a bit flirty and I eventually built up the courage to kiss her, it went a bit further but we didn't have sex although I was being pretty forward about it. It didn't seem to put her off too much though although I think I went a bit too far.

After that 'date' she agreed to see me again and I said we would go and do an activity or something like ice-skating or whatever. She said I surprised her, I don't think she expected me to make the advances that I did. Since then I've been getting mixed messages, over text (we've been speaking most days). One moment she will call me by a pet name like 'bubbs' (if that's even a pet name) and be ending messages with a kiss emoticon and then next day I will end it with an x and she won't reciprocate. After this I sort of realised I was getting too hung up on her and started thinking about actually playing the game a bit more, I didn't text her for a couple of days and she got back in contact yesterday.

The thing is that I am looking for a potential gf now, and I want this girl but I feel like that fact is hindering me a bit. I told her I would take her ice skating on Thursday, as our 3rd date. And she said she was "working thursday ". I just replied "damn girl! ok no worries" but I didn't offer an alternative date as I figure if she really wants to meet up then she will suggest a date as well. I understand texting should not be used to build attraction but rather as just a logistical tool.

Just looking for some tips really and I'm happy to provide further info if you need it. I found out she has only been single for a couple of months from what seems like a relationship that lasted a year or so, so she may not be emotionally available or looking to invest already so soon after. I don't know if she likes me and is perhaps slowing things down herself for this reason or not.

If anyone can offer their insight I would appreciate it!
Cheers!