So I sent this girl a message on Monday and on tues began talking thru messages on POF..

I then moved it too texting, which she did. She was seeming very interested and would message last.

I then moved it too an actual phone call the same night, which she also seemed to enjoy, and texted me right after we hung up..

Then the next day she started out with a good morning text and a few text through out the day..

Here's where things got shitty... She told me she was at the gym, so then after I left the gym I sent her a text showing my HR monitor & she just replied with an "oh jeez"

So I then tried to move into an actual meet up.. I remember she said she doesn't usually work on Saturdays but did work this one until 5pm, so the convo went like this

Me: you said you work until 5pm on Saturday right?

Her: No I have conferences this Saturday I don't usually work Saturdays

Me: What time are you free on Saturday?

(20 mins later)

Her: I'm not lol I have plans with my girls

Me: Cancel them, I'm more fun



That was it then, haven't heard from her since... I know she got it too because she was on fb mobile & I checked my other messages on pof & she was on there too..

I listen to a lot of Tariq Nasheed & his main point is too ALWAYS move things along ASAP.. Don't waste time texting and gossiping on the phone with these women..


But now it's dumb, I don't get by she seemed interested until I brought up hanging out and now I haven't heard a word from her..


What should I do next, I feel like anymore texting or calls will be bullshit time filler when I'm actually trying to hang out?

It was just wrong timing dude. She already had plans and i seriously doubt she was going to change her plans on her friends for someone she just met online a few days ago. You had something going so don't worry too much just wait and see if she'll message back within the next couple of days if not then try again by texting her next week. Best to set up weekend plans on Wednesdays and Thrusdays where it's far enough away to not be last minute, but close enough for her to not get booked for something else.
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Her already having plans this weekend isn't what's weird to me it's the fact that she stopped texting since I asked, when it seemed like she had a ton of interest before that's what doesn't make sense to me

I've been in a situation very similar to this before, where this chick started texting me everyday and then one thing happened and she just stopped just like that. Two things could happen at this point

1. She could text you within these next couple of days
2. She will not text you again for days/weeks/never

If no. 1 you know she still has interest still just needed some time/got busy or no.2 you need to reengage her yourself, because at that point you've got nothing to lose. Make sure you do not become needy in this situation and crawl back to her as a recovery will become slimmer.
You may be playing the game of waiting, Hope this helps

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So yeah fuck this chick,

I ended up texting her tonight when I seen her online on Facebook & POF with a simple "Hey ".. because why the hell not, nothing to lose...

and.... no reply...


Im recently single after a 2 year relationship, so Im getting back in the groove of things with online..


Im trying to learn from my mistakes and I just dont get what turned her off so quick, maybe I pushed the meet up too quick?

I dont see a problem with that though, I hate bullshitting and gossiping through text/phone calls with women and like to get to the point asap..

Its just annoying because she seemed very receptive and then nothing..

I looked back at your original post and noticed something. The part where you asked "When are you free Saturday?". Two things, first she took 20 minutes to reply, followed by a message saying she wasn't available which indicates that she was not looking forward to replying to this message right away. She saw it right away, but was avoiding it, even i do this sometimes. Secondly you should not ask her when she is free, it sounds like you're setting this whole thing up for her. Instead choose what, where, and when you are doing and tell her she should come. By asking She will think you have nothing else going on in your life, which shows that you desperately need her to go with you. Just say we're going here Saturday, you will sound so much more dominant from it as well. I know this time she happened to busy so it happens, but you might also want to have a better reply than you should ditch your friends for me. With a better transition she might be talking to you still. Next time you should also build some more comfort before asking her out somewhere, trust i know how it feels to just get right to it and you should've waited before you texted her last night, that may have come as needy. Plenty of chicks dude keep your head up and learn from your mistakes. Have any questions i'm here for you.

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with text game you shouldn't overthink too much and always assume that she is into you
don't over analyse and think, "oh it took her 20 minutes to respond so that means she not that into me and all"
in this situation i would recommend to take it a bit slower.
girls are often a little bias when it comes to online dating and think way more emotionally than rationally
don't text her for a couple of days and then text her something nice and funny like "i hope that your sexy is having a great day " or another opener like that and when the conversation is back on you can text her like "im going to a party on Saturday let me know if you are in a party mood"