4 months ago, I met this girl at work and we got on great, I could feel the chemistry between us. We ended up arranging to play some pool. The date didn't go great, I used not a single piece of kino, and I didn't kiss close. She was also on her phone alot of the time which was off-putting and I didn't really feel the chemistry that day. That was the last time I saw her, as soon after she moved abroad to study for a year.

She is abroad this year, and I am studying abroad next year, this makes any chance of a relationship seem highly impractical. Since this pool date, we have texted less once every month for about an 1 hour. My text game is alright, I have made a conscious effort to never come off as needy or desperate, I am witty and carry good energy, but I have never said anything sexually suggestive. At this stage she probably thinks I am just a friend after I used no kino, no sexually escalation and the overall impracticality of being in different countries and not being able to date anyway.

About a week ago, she messaged me on facebook asking how I was, and from there I suggested we hang out on her weeks return to the country, which is coming up in a months time, which she agreed to.

So here I am, I don't know what my game plan should be from here on. My day 2 was very poor, but I want to kiss close her on day 3. The amount of remaining meetups seem slim, as for the next 2 years we are far apart from each other so its seems irrational to try and get into a relationship, and therefore she is likely just looking to be friends. Do you suggest I just go for it, try my best to kino and kiss close on day 3 and risk losing her, or do I just stay friend like and see if we can maximise meet ups in the future?

I am inexperience with girls, so I guess I also need to factor in, which option will give me the strongest experience to help me in the future with girls and dating. P.s. I have only kissed a girl once before. Thanks for your help.

Dude, when I was inexperienced and only made out with one girl I was more terrified than you. The only way you will progress with woman is if you take risks. Go for this 3rd date and do whatever the fuck you want. DOn't be afraid to mess up at all. Be a caveman if you want. If you want be a chode. Do whatever you feel like doing. This will get you into natural state.

An exercise for next date. There is nothing 100% garanteed but here is a good thing you can do it helped me. Before you go on a date picture the ultimate guy you want to be. And picture that ultimate guy as being you. Then imagine how such a guy would act on a date.

For myself I always imagined my ultimate self to be very masculine, very dominant, not take any bullshit from girls, be willing to walk away from a girl at any time if she doesn't please me etc.. Then I would picture this imaginary myself going through a date and what he would do and I would do exactly the same.

Anyways cheers.

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This is called one-itis. You are obsessing way too much about this girl. Stop over thinking it and stop putting her on a pedestal. You already know what you need to do which is kino.

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