There's a girl with whom Ive been friends with for a few years, but nothing happened between us until recently.

We made out one night at my place, like 1 month ago while watching a movie. I didnt escalate towards sex as I wasn't in the mood (I've been on nofap for 2 months as I had a porn addiction, so my sex drive has been very low).

Afterwards we both went on holidays and we met up after we got back. We met up at her place and things got quite sexual. Unfortunately, I had forgotten to take condoms with me (I didnt think about it as I wasnt expecting my sex drive to be back yet). She ended up giving me a hand job and that was it.

We met a week later, but this time she seemed quite reluctant to meet and was very defensive. She didnt let me touch her and whenever I tried something she'd get really defensive and be like "i dont know what it is you want". Nothing happened and I got a bit pissed off (i didnt show it) as I felt she acted childish.

Now, I wouldnt mind if we go back to being just friends, but I'd prefer a friends with benefits thing. The question is, how do I handle this now ? I'm not sure if she acted like she did because I didnt fuck her the first 2 times, or because she might've heard something about me hooking up with another girl at a party the night before I saw her last.

Any advice is welcome
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What did you answer when she said I dont know what it is that you want? And try to text her some funny stuff, see if she treats you with fun, or if she is being distant. Also set up another date and escalate, you will have your answer then.

Ouch! She threw it at you twice? And you turned it away. well no wonder huh!

Turning it down once is sketchy, turning it down twice will get 'friend zone' mud all over your dick. turn it down again...that mud will harden like fucking CONCRTETE!

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She gave you a hand job and that was it. That means you haven't even rubbed hers? What do you expect... she pleased you, and in return you gave nothing. I wouldn't want a girl even as a fuck buddy who expects me to give her an orgasm and she wouldn't do the same to me, so why would a girl want to be in a relationship like that?

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Yeah, as other guys have said: You were a dick, too much of a dick.

Call her up to yours for a movie or something. Gain her confidence in you again... try by saying "Sorry if i've been a bit off these past few days/weeks but i've had some stress going on." Then just tease her a bit, be fun and say "Come over and i'll make it up to you with a movie in mine." About 30mins into the movie just start escalating. If you don't have condoms don't be a tool, just do other stuff like oral.

It sounds like you are just scared of sex son. I don't know what "noflap" means, does that mean you hadn't jacked off in 2 months? Or hadn't looked at pornog in 2 months? If your dick was rested up 2 months and you didn't go for it, or if the second time you convienetly forgot condoms, upgrade the woman or come out of the closet or just stay a virgin

7days is the optimum for "No fap theory" two months is just stupid.