Alright, so the situation is a bit of a different one and its quite a bit of a story so sorry in advance haha.

My best mate made a new Irish mate in December, i met him and what not and we became mates when I found out that the Irish girl that had just started work at the same place as me was his sister (HB9). I basically started talking to her at the work xmas party briefly talking about how I knew her brother and what not.

Anyway since then we started to talk a bit more at work, nothing serious just a little bit of chat and whatnot. In the meantime I was hanging around with her brother and my best mate a lot and the Irish girl started to befriend my mates' missus. We all went out new years eve (first time going out with her) and had a good night on the drink. My mate and her brother knew I was into her and set it up so that we would play pool together against the rest (we went undefeated). It was a good bit of banter between us and I would initiate a few high fives which were the first real kino between us. That was all good and left the night on a good note building to something.

Started to talk a bit more at work with her and at their place when hanging with her brother, then my mate had his birthday where we all went along and again we played a bit of pool and talked a bit more and bought her a drink. Then later in the night we were sitting down and she said she was keen to play pool, I said i'd verse her and we walked out to the pool table but a couple other randoms were on it and as soon as we get to the table she says "Nah I don't wanna play anymore" and we end up going back to where we were sitting with our group.

Once again inbetween events we continued to talk a bit at work but any attempt at messaging ended abruptly which was surprising. About two weeks ago, her brother, my mate and his missus went to the movies casually, before the movie at my mates house I had a good and first real one on one chat with her for a good 20 minutes. At the movies I sat between her and her brother and not much happened until near the end of the movie her arm noticeably rested against mine (in my retardedness i didn't do anything). Then later in the week I posted a status about going to the beach the next day and she liked it, so I invited her to the beach and she declined.

Now, finally onthe weekend we had a mates birthday at his house and she came halfway through the night after work. We chatted a fair bit where we were dissing eachother about our dancing and bagging a drunk mate and she was twirling her hair a lot with a little bit of kino. Anyway I ended up sitting across from her (only seat left) and there was a hell of a lot of extended eye contact and smiles between us both there and when we were talking earlier. Anyway I got up and socialised a bit with others for about 5 minutes and then came back and sat on the couch next to her. She was sat forward in her seat and basically did not make eye contact with me for a good 15 minutes while I was right next to her despite all the earlier contact and it felt really awkward because it was such a drastic change from just 5 minutes earlier.

That's where I really am not overly sure if she is necessarily into me as anything more than a work colleague/friend since any time I have tried to create a solid one on one situation such as asking her to the beach, she has rejected. Its also not as simple a thing of just letting her know my intentions since if she is not keen then it will be extremely awkward since we see eachother at work everyday and not to mention the fact I am at her/her brother's house quite often.

Any suggestions or what not to apporoach this situation as I am seriously terrible at this stuff haha

I can't really say much about this, but I do have one advice, don't show your intentions yet. Wait for her to show them, just keep having fun with her and be the man of the party, and don't be afraid to talk to other girls infront of her. And wait for her to break down, btw keep doing what you do(IE talking with her message etc) just don't invite her to much if she keeps declining.

Alright, cheers for the advice mate. Its a bit of a struggle messaging her though since there is very little to feed off with her replies, plus if i keep up the messaging wont that show my intentions in a way, especially if she isn't giving much in return?

You should try to keep a balance, reply just a tiny bit more than her, and just a tiny bit more enthusiasm then her. Make sure you DHV infront of her..(btw this should be automatic without thinking, or else you need to work on your innergame) and be nice to her, tease her sometimes, sometimes a little bit sweet talk, not to much tho. She will come around and get feelings. Btw its alot of trouble, so I hope you see her as relationship material, because if its only a one night stand, this is way to much trouble and should be done in another way, by speed seduction(if interested read 60years of challenge).

Btw try to stay as unattached as possible, just incase she meets another dude or something. So you don't feel bad.\

Cheers mate, i am definitely keen for a relationship with her and definitely worth the work. My biggest issue with this one is the fact that if I were to be rejected it would be a lot more awkward in regards to seeing eachother non stop, whereas any other rejection is easy enough to get away from. That's why for her I want a bit more security knowing she is keen before I show my intentions.

Alright so there is an update to this situation now which has thrown a huge spanner in the works. She is not completely over her ex (who is in Ireland) and apparently they broke up because at the last second he chose not to move to Australia with her and her family(making it worse since he basically broke up with her). Obviously though she isn't going to move back to Ireland or him move out here so there is no chance of their relationship really being rekindled.

Also she is now well aware of my interest in her through our mutual friend who decided to tell her when drunk but she has been acting way more playful towards me of late which is just confusing me even more. Only problem again with that is how we can act like that and have good conversations and a lot of connection in person yet trying to talk to her over text is a real struggle.

Do you guys think she could possibly be interested to an extent but not over her ex enough to make that jump with another guy. I wouldn't expect a commitment from her or anything until the time is right but it just seems that if i make a serious move showing my intentions now she wont be keen but if i try and wait it out i'll miss the boat with her.

Point here is escalating, you must kino her, and talk a bit with her, have fun with her, and at some point she will realize she either likes you or not, and she will break the barrier. but you must kino her heavily or else she will friendzone you as she already knows your intention..

Alright mate, will do then. See how i go here