Hi, I need to get some good advice on this. I live in Florida. But I had to go to a company meeting in California. There I met a girl who also works for the same company but works at the California branch of the company. She is super cool. I felt an instant attraction and chemistry. I got her phone number. But I live in Florida….so it is like I’m a million miles away from this girl.

The day I got back from the trip I texted her and we talked for a little bit. I wanted to find out if she had interest in me as well. She said she also felt a connection with me right away and wanted to get to know me more but didn’t have the opportunity because of all the other co-workers around. And she went on to say she liked me and enjoyed my company.

But because we live so far away from each other she said she could only see us as good friends…maybe even best friends who flirt with each other and who are attracted to each other and whatever. Having said that she did go on to say that she would leave the door open for possibility of something happening between us. And that if something happens to just let it happen naturally…not forced.

So…..based on all that….I agree with her that due to the fact that we live so far apart that a serious relationship is not possible right now. But it does sound like she is interested enough to become good friends that could hang out and still have fun together when we meet up.

But I still have many questions. From what she said do you think she is saying that there could still be a “sexual” relationship even if we can’t have a serious “dating” relationship? Like friends with benefits type of thing? Or I’m I really in the dreaded FRIEND ZONE?? My feeling is that we could have that type of relationship (friends with benefits) but not 100% sure.

Also, in the meantime am just trying to get to know her more and form a closer friendship. But I don’t want to make the big mistake that many guys make of texting her too much. Since the trip I’ve only been Initiating texting her a couple times a day. So far she hasn’t really initiated a text to me. But it’s only been a couple days since the trip.

So…how should I approach this going forward? I am sooo into this girl. She is extremely attractive and it’s all I can do to hold back from texting her but so far I’ve been using self control. How often should I text? Should I wait for a while to her back? If we can get closer as friends I’d like to try to see if I could come visit her in California later in the year. But first things first.

The negative side of me thinks she may just be being nice to me and not really into me. But you never know. She is not the type to go crazy over a guy I don’t’ think. She said she had been burned by guys in the past so she likes to take things slow. Great! LOL!

I look forward to hearing your thoughts/suggestions!

I would suggest talking about sex and roleplay with her. If you talk about sex with her she will relate you to it and think about both of you doing it. Role playing is fun and it gives her a title. For example if you tell someone they are your best friend and treat them like it the will be your best friend so if you call her your wife or girlfriend and treat her like it (and she's comfortable) she wont mind being it.