A girl from my uni class smiled a me.
Then we started saying hello to each other even though we didn't really know each other.
The I overcame my AA (Yai!) and stopped her, got her name and had a coffee break conversation (but couldn't say what her vibe was (she did ask for my name again at the end)).

Now I'm trying to get a date. I know she likes to shop, so I thought I'd ask her to help me shop for some christmas gifts, then we could have a coffee, some food, just walk around and talk. Evening time would work best I think.

What's your opinion?

Hey buddy,

Seems a bit direct to straight to a shopping trip.
From your description of the situation, you haven't spent much time with her.
My tip is to get her to talk again, but keep her for as long as possible. Do you have any stories/routines that you can stack? The chat needs to be fun and high energy to keep her attention. If its another coffee break conversation, start a story just before you need to go to class, then tell her you will finish it later and tell her you need to some tips shopping, and if she comes and helps you, you will finish the story! This would be a good reason to exchange numbers too....

Good luck

Mixar

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Thanks a lot. Yeah I'm a total newbie, but trying my best.

yeh build the comfort.. do you play an instrument/ play sports/ have ninja skills/ anything that shows you are cool and have ability. try to mention that and remember keep it fun and be confident. Whats the worst thing that can happen? she won't be interested......her loss. Maybe during the conversation mention that youre thinking of going present shopping, mention this early on in the conversation and if things go well, at the end of the convo just say "hey i'm thinking of going to present shopping (insert date date time), you SHOULD come, it'l be awesome". you'll get your answer either way. If she says yes, give her your phone and tell her to put her number in, that way you can confirm things with her.

This is a valid question!

Go up to the girl and be like "Do you like christmas shopping?" When she says yes, then ask her to come shopping with you. What's she going to do say "NO, I only like shopping, not shopping with YOU."

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I have a problem guys:

We had several classes since the first hello. Still didn't get her name or any other conversation, because she's always with her girlfriends and I'm kind of an outsider in that class.
Tomorrow's the last chance: Wait or just go for it? When is the best time? During class, break (4 breaks available), after class?
Should I write her during the class? Something like "Do you like christmas shopping?" or first the name?


I'm totally out of concept and kind of fell in love with her (if that is even possible)...
I'm so unsure, because it seems that, even though she still greet me every time, she's not quite sure what's going on. Am I right? Should I be clear about my intentions at this stage and simply ask her out?

Hey Bro,

Sounds like you need an opener for the group.
Since you have talked to her before, approach the group on the first break and say "what's with all the weirdo's in this class? You guys seem normal compared to everyone else." Then move the conversation in that direction for a bit. Maybe pick on the lecturer or some classmates etc. Just funny stuff, don't be mean about it.

After your opener and banter about the class dynamics, ask them who's done thier xmas shopping. You should use them for ideas and let them help you decide what to buy your friends/family. This bit is the closer, say you dont know where to buy one of the gift ideas they have suggested and seek her out for help at the shopping center. Maybe make sure you are standing next to her the whole time, and when you ask, speak a little soflty so it's more personal and she will need to lean in to hear you.

Let us know if you succeed.

Cheers

Mixar

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So here is the outcome:

I tapped her on the shoulder, told her had to talk to her in private.
Left the class run during break, walked for a coffee, some chit chat (christmas shopping and yes still some gaps) bought coffee, sat on stairs, talked...
then I told her that I would like to have coffee with her sometime (and yes we were just having coffee) and she said, she had a boyfriend. I think it was honest. I somehow managed to stay in tune and just went on and said: "But we could anyway go for a coffee" and she agreed, gave me her name (typed it in) and her number and we walked back to class.

I guess I somehow landed in the friend zone again (darn it!). But took my first number close as a trophy, at least I was able to just ask a girl to have a coffee sometime. First time after 25 years of silence I had the courage.

That's great man. Every step counts and don't put too much pressure on yourself. Just have fun meeting people.

Cheers
Mixar

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wisdom is knowing what to do next virtue is doing it
Translation - Thought without action is pointless!

How would you guys qualify the number, if she keeps on writing back and forth...
Just the friend zone or am I on "hold"?

well done on your first number close. the most important thing you need to remember is DON'T CHASE JUST ONE GIRL! chase several, then if one girl loses interest you have another 1/2/3/4 to contact. Don't fall in love with a girl whose name you don't even know. your not a pussy are you?

leave her a couple of days and then text her something fun and interesting and confident. tell her you did something and you were AMAZING at it. don't be a pussy, DON'T be too nice, take the piss out of her (british phrase). and work on other girls at the same time.