Thank you for the feedback, guys! This is extremely useful for a noob like me and I really appreciate it!
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I can see that you're quite new to it as well. I understand that people go about taking things slow if they want to commit to each other and develop a strong connection, but consider this example
- A girl is approached by 2 guys at a bar and gets both of their numbers.
- She goes for a coffee date with one and has a deep conversation with him and they learn more about each other, however they don't escalate at all.
- She goes for a coffee date with the other guy and there's not as much of a deep conversation. However, there is a lot of escalation and sexual tension between the two. She ends up going back to his and sleeping with him.
Who has a stronger connection? The guy who slept with her, that's who
He has a physical connection that the other guy can't compare to, and he can still 'get to know her' to an extent.
Don't worry about all these multiple dates; just be the man!
hahaha, I completely relate to the guy in your first example!
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These are also a few things which came into my mind. How is your:
1) Body language? Are you standing shoulder to shoulder, bodyrocking etc or are you standing with your full front to her (just throwing away your value) while maybe even leaning in to her when you talk (thus again lowering your value)?
2) How good is your eyecontact? Could you almost seduce her by just using your eyes? If not, you need to practice it right now. How is your voice? Do you talk relaxed and deep or highpitched + fast like an AFC? I've found out the hard way how important your eye-contact and voice really is. When I started with PUA I used to run good talkative game, but somehow chicks just slowly lost interest and soon only responded with "yes, no" until all hope was lost. It all changed when I started to really practice infront of the mirror etc. Suddenly the HBs where the ones trying to find topics in order to keep MY interest.
3) Are you qualifying her? I can't stress enough how useful this is. Lead her into the subject then qualify her for being good at it or liking it.[/quote]
The answer to these 3 questions is that I don't really know... *confused*
Body language: the only thing is that I try to look confident in what I say
Eyecontact: I look at her straight in the eyes but I think I am not flirty enough. I have been thinking of winking when I say something funny or naughty but I have never managed to do it yet (I don't wink usually with my friends)
Qualifying her: well, I was under the impression that if I praised her she would take me for a beta, but I see how it is done in your example. very useful...
I know I should be doing kino, escalation and building sexual tension but something inside is blocking me. These things don't come naturally to me and I always end up doing nothing. You can't imagine the number of opportunities I have lost like that... I have always been kinda shy but that is no excuse...
What's wrong with me? I think my case is hopeless...
Anyway, a friend of mine told me too that I should have kissed her when I was under the umbrella. How could I have missed that? I feel like I missed a golden opportunity and I might be losing her now... grrrrr
Not only did I feel like shit all day and a lot of shitty things happened to me today, to top everything, she seems to have lost interest in me. There's a vacancy at the place I work at and she asked me a favor to have a look at one of her friend's cv. Anyway, I replied to her (not immediately of course) and added some funny comment about my day/almost falling asleep in meetings. She still hasn't replied (probably won't)... Curse my female best friend who urged me to send her a text message today. I told her I should wait but she really insisted that I do it today... Never listen to girls for advice...
I swear, it's one of those days you are better off staying in the bed and do nothing...
I am acting like an AFC, I know... I am mixed between disappointement and anger for being such a noob and being played around...
CHAT
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