I feel like my main problem has been texting. When I text friends, I ask them if they want to go to a bar. I do this because I have nothing to say to them besides that. But whenever I need to go on a date with a women. I screw it up by asking immediately. I state my name and then ask them if they want to meet up at so and so. This is where I fail and lose about 50% of first dates. I don't have time to text 4 or 5 times a day so what do I need to do to bat higher than .500 with less than 10 texts in a week?

Edit: Should I just call? Usually I text at dinner/lunch. I find it completely rude if someone called me at a certain time (during class, etc) and just hang up on them. I like texts since it allows me to respond when I am not busy. I feel like calling someone is odd since it is assuming that she doesn't have a life.

just call, if it is ''rude'', but they are interested, they will call you back, if not, then they will not answer and think nothing of it, and not return your call

I like texting pretty much just to build rapport with someone right after meeting them so you don't seem like a stranger anymore, and if you met her at a bar and talked to her for a good long while, this is probably not even nessicary, just need a good solid interaction, and she has to know what you're about (intentions etc.) so she is not confused by why you are hitting her up

if you have rapport and a girl won't comply with a date, she is probably not interested to begin with, and the amount of effort you want to put into that to get her out is really up to you, but it's probably easier to just move on and meet new girls instead of trying to fix a dead lead, or create something from nothing

you sound like you want to ''lose less girls'' when it would probably more efficent if you had higher standards and screened them out earlier so you didn't emotionally invest in them to begin with, rather then trying to raise your date rate to .500, why not try to get blown out way sooner in set by more girls, by being more clear in your intentions, so that you don't end up wasting time on girls that are truly not interested enough to just say yes to a date to begin with, obviously if that's too hardcore for her, how hardcore is you making out with her and getting naked going to be?

Above .500. I weed out girls all the time by simply not being able to sleep with them. I am no desperado though and would never sleep with a ugly chick under no circumstance. I wonder why they give me their number and then when I ask them on a date. They say they are busy and don't make plans next time. You told me that texting is to get to know them. Should I ask them stuff like "What are you up to" instead of immediately asking them on a date. This is where I fail and notice that I get weeded out.I am fine on dates, I am fine esclating, and I am fine getting numbers. But I suck at texting like no other and feel like I am missing opportunities.

physical standards are almost the least important standards to have when considering screening, just simply don't approach girls you have no interest in, compatability and compliance are the important ones, and your availability isn't really in question here, you should only make yourself available to those that screen well for compatability and compliance

you might want to consider just not pursueing as much, make the first moves, take the first steps and be in the lead, put your attention on the table, make it so you and the girl are not strangers, but then give her the opportunity to invest in your life, give her the space and ability to hit you up, only time to build rapport is to make sure you are not strangers and she gets a sense for who you are

some girls, give up their numbers because they like attention, and want to have a guy hitting them up and pursueing them (if you are that guy, you will likely get text buddies but flaked on the regular, these are called ''orbiters''), some give their number because they are interested by unavailaible currently (boyfriends, more interesting options etc.), some give their number because it's hard for them to say no and when they are approached they feel the need to ''reward'' your courage instead of rejecting you (impressed but not attracted), some simply like the idea at the time but feel it would be weird to meet someone they don't know much about and were just complying in the moment (lack of trust and connection), some just have busy lives and flake for legitimate reasons

the whole how you ask them out is not important, what is more important is their perception of you before hand, and if they are comfortable with the idea of meeting you, the connection and impression you make are the difference between a girl hitting you up every day and asking you out, and you hitting up a girl and getting flaked over and over, she has to actually want to be a part of your life

so if she percieves you may lead an interesting lifestyle or are fun to be around, more incentive for her to want access to your life, don't think of it so much like you are trying to get a girl, more like you have a life and you are finding girls to invite into it, you have to screen them for compatability though, incompatible girls will waste your time and not share the same idea of fun you do, you don't need to be flirting all the time or anything, but you should test the waters to see how she complies, and outwardly express who you are in comfort so she gets a sense for who you are and if you two are compatible

when you can guage how she is, and how she responds to you, you can just include her in your life, you want to see her to get to know her better?, just tell her you want to take her out for drinks, she flakes? then she is not after what you are after, stop trying to get her after this point, let her put in some work, if she won't then she is not interested enough in the idea of being a part of your life, and further pursueing her is a waste of time, she needs more incentive to join up, and the more you try to convince her, the less it will seem worth it for her, let her put in work, it's easier to just meet new girls then fix the ones that have formed an opinion that is less then what is desired

also, have things to do in your life, you're going to see a movie?, invite a bunch of girls along (have multiple contacts), if you're sitting at home watching movies on netflicks or w/e, invite a bunch of people over for drinks, going shopping? see if some girls want to come along, not just one girl alone for sex (unless she is invested and trying to hit you up), when you're out on dates try to get the date home, if a girl is really invested in you, you can get her over to your place for a movie alone, but you have to feel she is compliant and interested enough for these sorts of things, just casually extend invites and use your phone for logistics, if girls are regularily flaking in a pattern, ohh well, just don't go out of your way to hit them up, let them hit you up, and instead of socializing with them over the phone, give them an invite to do it in person, and if they can't cut it short, eventually they will fall off or start hanging out with you, and always be adding to your pool of options, don't think of numbers as some big amazing feat, they mean nothing, they are just a way to bridge logistics and contact someone, nothing more, nothing less

it isn't the texting where you are failing, it has little to no impact, it's that you are confusing a girls compliance and interest in person, with her being attracted to the idea of being a part of your life

a girl can be physically into you, and show compliance, but at the same time not find you interesting or fun enough to be around and later when the high of attention from a cute guy wears off, there is no incentive to meet you, and invites like, ''lets go on a coffee date'', or ''lets go on a drink date'' sometimes are not as appealing as their other options that they currently have (maybe even sitting on their couch alone is more appealing to them at the time then some coffee date that might be boring), alot of girls also have other guys that they are already more invested in that are also chasing them, you gotta stand out from these guys and have something to offer that appeals to them

you can either make yourself so attractive that they just want to bang you, and meeting you for the sake of meeting you is the incentive, or you can make your lifestyle and the thought of being around you attractive enough that they want to be apart of that

if you are finding that girls being all up on you in person and compliance is not the issues, then maybe you want to find some better ways to screen girls for common interests, and if you don't have any personal interests besides sitting at home, then maybe it's time to develop some