Hi Guys,

I am totally new to this forum, and there is some great advice and techniques here. I am by no means a PUA, and totally new to this. However, I plan to start using the techniques I read here soon. However, I seem to be in a very confusing situation and have no idea where I stand with this girl. My issue:

There is this girl, she is 19 (definitely a 9, or HB9 as you guys call it) and I am 30. She is at University and I run my own business. When she just moved into town, I met her (about 6 months ago). In the 2nd meeting we made out a bit and got to finger her to orgasm. Met again, and slept with her. She seemed attached but I was out of town for a week, and things changed when I got back. I was cool with it and she seemed to be busy with campus and her 'friends' on campus.

We remained friends, primarily chatting, and ocassionally meeting with mutual friends., but no hanky panky. About 2-3 weeks ago we became close again. I know that she is a player, and I tell her that to her face. We became close after she was caught playing 2 guys on campus, and actually really liked the one guy. I laughed at it, and said she is still a young player. So basically, I know she is into lying to guys and playing the field, and she knows I do know that.

Getting on with the story, about 2 weeks ago, we hooked up, went for a few drinks, and I got head in a bar (privately ofcourse). About a few days later, we went to another party and I had sex with her in the club (owner gave me private room keys). Thereafter, now she seems to busy to meet. We were meant to do lunch, when I called her, she said she was studying but ended up finding out she went to lunch with friends from campus. I was cool about it, but mentioned that was very disappointed that she had to lie - since we are not committed. Following weekend, she made excuses why she could not meet me, and ended up partying with other friends. But we chatted about this, until I was wasted one night and I deleted her of chat.

She called me the next day and asked me to add her again, and that we have so many memories, how could I delete her. I re-added her, but barely chat to her. She is always initiating chat and I eventually disappear and stop chatting.

And when we do chat, and she hints that we should hook up again, I ask her when and where? She is like the weekend. Usually weekends she is busy, and I told her yesterday that 'You know we both have hectic schedules on weekends' and she is like 'I will make time for you'.

This might or might not happen, no idea. My question is, how do I become priority, and not the friends on campus? How do I make her fall for me? Some of that psychology techniques maybe? Or create some drama?

Hope you guys can help. Please shout if you need any more detail.

Thanks

Okay, so I got these tickets to a show tonight...and asked her to join, and she seems very keen. Any tips on how to play it tonight?

Another valuable piece of info is that she seems to be emotionless....claims to never have fallen in love, or had a broken heart. Can I change this?

She doesn't seem to be after a long-tern relationship, more for fun.

If you do want her to be your girlfriend, you have make yourself stand out as boyfriend material aka none of these jerks that seem to be the majority on this forum.

Wow, there are ladies in this forum as well?! Hi Ladypearl...

You probably right, I am at that point where I am the crazy guy that she does crazy shit with...just got home, and we had sex in a public place tonight...it was insane...

But after, while taking her home (like 5 orgasms later for her)...she seems like she was texting another guy that she mentioned before to me that she really likes...and 2 nights ago mentioned that they 'kinda' dating...lol...so if i am the 'bf' material guy, ill end up chatting to her while other guys are fucking her? She is a player though...I know that and tell her that...so now she is comfy telling me 'some' of her stories...but how to remain in her mind all the time? That is the big q...

Any advice will be appreciated...

hi
you must hook up with other girl and she must know it without bragging about it
and plzzzz punish here bad behavior with ignoring here and with some distance because she is playing with you and she show pre-selection this is why you are attracted to here

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well, it's very obvious that she is in it for the sex (at the moment). If you're wanting to assert yourself as boyfriend material then you've go to make your qualifications as a boyfriend to her. right now you're playing the role as "hey lets f*k everywhere" guy.

my opinion is that if you start going to her as dating material, she won't be so open to it, and you might notice the lack of contact (again). try and change up your strategy and see how it goes from there, one step at a time. maybe instead of a club maybe just dinner or a place good for connection and communication. be there for her when she needs it, don't be the one getting in her way of other guys. if she choices someone else then so be it, there's plenty of other young women looking for older men, if that's that you're into.

you cant be jealous of her texting other guys especial if she's with YOU and not them. make sure you're recognizing you immaturity, don't delete her and re-add her soon as she says "add me! again!" show confidence in decisions, stick with them. best advise I can give in your situation is, don't come across as you wanting to marry her (clingy), when she shows interest in you as a boyfriend metrical, reward her. when she shows you signs of a F*buddy metrical, pull back. if you want her for a relationship, show her you're qualified as that guy, not a F*buddy.


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