So, as the title says, ive been speaking to this chick for a bit, HB9 single mum, 2 kids, shes told loads of stuff about her ex relationship etc etc,

i asked her out last night nothing serious, walk along a beach etc, but replied with i want to chat a bit more before we meet.

in all honesty we spoke about alot of rubbish blah blah,

what else am i supposed to be talking about / asking??? shes told me shes free on friday nights, which i replied with so am i.

am i missing something here is she just being super cautious????

Just talk with her like a normal human being dude..she wants to see if you're normal

Also, take into account that she is a single mom and I bet you one of her biggest fears is getting hurt again. She's just trying to make sure you are a normal guy and does not want to rush into things.

yea i get that impression, forgot to mention she did hit me up, but yeah her last relationship was deep,

ill see what happens

Forget 1 on 1 dates, arrange to go out with your friends (preferably female to increase your pre-selection) and let her know casually when and where you will be. This way she will feel less pressure. Calling it a "date" actually puts lots of HBs off because they feel like they're expected to dress up, k-close and perhaps more.

Women just want to feel like they chose to have sex with you.

ok so update!

chatted to her more and more and more!

the other night she was like, you gotta come over mine and well have a film night,

then last night gives me her number!

i leave it all day and this eve drop her a text asking how she was and nothing, hot and cold this girl!

any thing i should run by her perhaps???

Don't think about it too much if she doesn't reply. Single parents are often busy with their kids. Just roll with it and don't get impatient. See other women while you're waiting.

Needs more report with you. More comfort.

Another way to gain comfort and raport is to listen to her. Try this


When a girl comes to us with a problem they actually want their emotional needs to be me through empathy. They don't want us to fix their problem they want to vent.

For example if she comes to you saying "She did this to me blah blah" as a guy our first instinct is to solve the problem: "why don't you try talking to her blah blah blah"

What she really wants from you is something along the lines of "OMG what a complete bitchg I can't believe she did that to you!"

You'll connect more that way.

After that you could try talking dirty to her also to get her worked up but you have to be very careful with this since it has to be done at the right time.