Hey guys,
I’ve been talking to this girl for a bit over text. We have a few classes together at school and such so there’s some face to face contact too.

So this is our conversation (text) after two trial exams (English/business)

Me: Knew nothing!
Girl: English or business?
M: Came 10 mins late for English and business was ridiculous
G:
G: Wait, why were you late? :O
M: Because I thought the exam started at 9
G: ...
M: and the boys thought so too
G: ...
M: !!!
G: Why did they make it on time then....?
M: They didn’t LOL
G: Oh really?
G: Didn’t know that :$
M: We all walked in at the same time
G: Haha so then what happened?
G: did you get extra time?
M: Nup. Man moded it
G: Did you finish it all? I didn’t
M: I guess I finished English (semi-legit) and I finished biz half an hour early
G: not to be mean, but honestly speaking if you do better than me I’ll be really upset

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cool, First of all what is it u need "advice" with... REALLY unclear what u want but im guessing u wanto hook up with her;)

so if u have a chain of convos with her over text(for a long while) then i suggest u add "xxx" at the end of your messages cuz this indicates your interest and admits that the long covos youve had with her you enjoyed. if she doesnt reply with the same amount of "x"s (two or one) then she was being polite all along and sees u and a friend.. if she doesnt give any then she isnt that intrested...build more rapport then.

if those were your only texts then i guess you should talk to her in person/with a group more than u two...IF you want to try it out with texts then text her randomly(not in the mornings) giving reasons why you texted, for example * OMG how the fudge do u get chewing gum out of your hair!:((* this will tell her u see her as a friend who is likely to help out... then carry on with things non school related bcuz youll b JUST LIKE THE REST(besides in order to chirps her you should never talk logical stuff IT BORES THEM).. b unique and FUN! open to covos and stuff:D allways cheerful and never get offended

replies should b simple but fun, dont bore her with long ass text but also make her intrigued to text u more often... dont askk too many things and sometimes reply late(like an hour or so) shell wonder what your up to:P

and that last text was only a tease(dont get offended) should have replied with something humourous like * Watch me! * or * CHALLENGE ECCEPTED!:P* or u should make a bet she wouldnt forget and hold u on to it

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I've actually never heard of this "xxx" thing!
So I'm thinking my first post got cut short somehow and I'm not sure how. I probably forgot to paste all of it when I wrote it, my bad. I actually showed a couple of other texts (and the end of the one you saw and no I didn't get offended from her tease ). So I probably won't write those out again (unless you want more info/examples) but I'll just cut to the problems/advice needed.

I was making small talk (push/pull and just conversation in general) when:

Girl: sign I'm really sad
Me: Let's talk about it?
G: [School subject] is due in less than a month
G: I can't even think about it without wanting to cry
G: Ok not talking about this
G: Stop talking about [Subject]!
M: Ok
M: (Changes subject)

The conversation was a bit awkward after that and she gave a lot of one word answers. So I'm thinking I need advice on how I should've responded to that.

Next the main thing I need help with is IOI's. I've known this chick for a moderate amount of time and just been friends. What should I be looking for when it comes to IOI's?

Hope this gives you a bit more direction to work with, there are quite a few more texts between us if you wanted to see anything else.

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Life is too short to be anything but happy; what you do today is extremely important - you're trading a whole day of your life for it.

hmm if youve never heard of it then i guess you can leave it out, but here in london the xxx thing goes wild and its only considered as polite to give atleast one x haha:D
i kno i guy whos been in a relationship over 2 years and most of their texts end with over 10 "x"s haha;)

ahaa the girl was stressed about getting on with her work and thinking about the amount of work thats to be done--- she was complaining to you how down she feels(she trusts u enof) and theres nothing you could have said really and u should have let HER change the subject

hmm i remember geting those one worded replies LOL, its everyones way of saying i like you(thats why im polite and dont ignore you) but now im not in the mood

just let her chill and talk to her again in a few days, if she remains that way thenn back off, give space and let her feel like shes missing out by purposely excluding her out of the FUN SHIT you do.. the most clear indication of UNintrest is geting dead air from her when shes ignoring you completely...this is something i need help with myself LOOL;))

friends wise IOIs that i can think of:
first of all you must have some good rapport(trust and sync)

- if she laughs at you jokes even though theyre not funny(dont get confused with sarcastic ones like*omg get me out of here*)

-shes pries you to talk more or asks alot of questions bout you or your past GFs and such... if you say youve been to a cinema recently and she asks you WHO did you go with shes intrested;) if small details matter to her then its a clear IOI andd if you get a who question then shes hoping it wasnt with another girl...yes you can lie to make them feel jealous but be careful not to say you like someone else

-shares her stuff like its nothing OR she insists on doing you a favour
- most IOIs are obvious so youll have no trouble spotting them

HAHA heres a VERY good sly test you can try;DD
THE HI FIVE TEST
as youre talking to her and she says something you like, give her a hi five(NOT THE AWKWARD ONE)
The key is that as you slap her hand sort of griping her fingers for a split second. Her reaction to this indicates her comfort level around you:)
IF she pulls her hand immediately away, or leaves her fingers limp, she probably doesn't feel comfortable around you...
ON THE OTHER HAND, ifshe holds her hand there for a second grips your fingers back, or sort of let her hand slide against yours..its a pretty good indicator that youve developed a nice level of rapport with her :DD

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