Alright guys, first post here.

Okay, first things first, I work for a large grocery chain with many employees. The girl I've been talking to has worked there for a while but I've never had a conversation with her (we work in completely different departments) up until the last couple weeks.

Anyhoo, I pass by her work area quite frequently, and strike up short, but usually playful conversations with her and have been doing so for the last 2 weeks or so.

So far, what I've accomplished:

- She asked me what my name was when I first started chatting her up. I'm assuming this is a good sign.

- I have managed to walk by with other (attractive) female co-workers as she's looking in my direction.

- I have lots of friends/acquaintances at my workplace, and am always seen by her socializing or having lunch with these people. I sat with her the other day during lunch, and had quite a few people say hi to me during that span.

- She's mirroring my actions. For example: I told that I cut my finger and showed her and she said that she had one too and showed me hers. Also, working in a grocery story, I tend to buy a lot of organic food. Every time she sees me buying something interesting, she looks at it, and says she is going to try it herself.

- Used inventive humor to make her laugh. For example: She hadn't filed her taxed as of Saturday, and I told that she better do it or the feds will show up, take her to Guantanamo, and water board her.

- Used cocky humor to make her laugh. For example: She was worried about taking too long of a lunch and I said "Just tell them Joe said it was alright. I've got pull around this place."

So, I feel that I've demonstrated high value. However, what I haven't demonstrated (or at least IMO) is the intent that I want to date her.

How do I escalate and number close this one?

I was thinking about saying this: "You seem like a girl with a good head on her shoulders and I'd like to get to know you better but I'm not sure we'd get along." At that point she would probably ask why we wouldn't get along and I'd tell her something along the lines of "well...I think it would be too much of a good thing You know, like getting too much sunshine or chocolate!? But...I guess that I could find it in my heart to let you buy me dinner." And then number close.

Any other ideas? Or should I demonstrate my interest a little better and ramp things up first before trying to close it out?

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I was thinking about saying this: "You seem like a girl with a good head on her shoulders and I'd like to get to know you better but I'm not sure we'd get along." At that point she would probably ask why we wouldn't get along and I'd tell her something along the lines of "well...I think it would be too much of a good thing You know, like getting too much sunshine or chocolate!? But...I guess that I could find it in my heart to let you buy me dinner." And then number close.
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I'm not a fan of what you just said... My advice would be make it simple... when you see her, make her laugh a bit, and just tell her something like: "Hey I have a great idea..." she'll say what's up so all you tell to her is: "We should go have dinner me and you this week!" And proceed to number close! That's it... Keep it fun and simple

just get your point accross and ask her out and put a frame around it
(get your intent accross, and request compliance)

example:

''you seem pretty cool, I want to take you out, what do you like doing?''

''you're cute, lets go out on a date, what sort of romantic ideas do you have for a date?''

''I like talking to you, we should get dinner next week, when are you free?''

just express intent, and request compliance, put it in your own words, something that suites your frame and personality

throw out the invite then see what she says and take it from there,
she either will comply or will not comply, this is just the beginning if there is no compliance then it is probably not worth hunting down or masturbaiting over for hours and hours

Man, I think I messed up.

I saw her today, she seemed happy to see me, so I struck up a conversation. I mentioned that I was tired and she said she was too. Then I said "I stayed up late to watch the hockey game" and then asked her if she liked hockey. She said that she watches it when it's on. Then I figured it wouldn't be much of a stretch to ask her if she has ever ice skated (See, my original plan was to take her ice skating). She said that she had but fell down and added that her balance should have been better because she was a dancer. After that, it got awkward because I never followed through on asking her to go ice skating right then and there when the topic came up. I just left it hanging. It almost seemed like she was on to me with the line of questioning. The thing is, I didn't wuss out. I was just planning on having a better answer to whether she would want to go ice skating or not and use it in my next interaction to seal the deal. My timing always sucks. I'm Mr. Bad Timing. Haha.

Anyway, the question is:

Did I mess this up too badly? Should I just recover by asking her to go ice skating anyway? I was thinking about just saying something like: **me getting her laughing at something** "You know, since you can't ice skate, it's my duty to show you how. How about ____. I may be able to get you some training wheels or something". And then build off of that.

And a second question: Was her response to me asking her whether she liked ice skating or not a big IOI? I mean she went and elaborated on falling and her balance issue despite being a dancer. Was this a "call to help". I.e. You should take me ice skating and show me how!

And yes I suck with girls. Luckily it seems like most of them like the way I look so it naturally opens a few doors.

UPDATE:

Well, in a great stroke of luck or synchronicity (take your pick), I ran into her at our workplace. Mind you we were both out of work and in there for for our own individual reasons so the timing couldn't have been better.

Anyway, I got her laughing a few times. She asked me what I was the for and I just answered "stuff...erm, I'm stalking you, that's right". Then she said jokingly, "I can't blame you" and I said "let's not get carried away here". So I'm not sure I handled that right in PUA terms, but I didn't really think about it so it was natural.

Anyway, for the juicy details you've all been waiting for. I didn't try an act or anything and just came out and told her we should go ice skating. She said "oh should we with a smile" and then said "you'll probably be pushing me around the rink" in which I replied "well, I'll get you some training wheels or something" and she laughed and said "okay". Sealed the deal with the number and the rest is history.

Perfect! Look it's not complicated seriously... you kept it funny... made fun of her... that's perfect!

Seriously, there's no routine miracle or pua secret... it's all about confidence! Pua gives you tools, you use those tools and make them urs in a natural way!! With experience, you'll gain confidence and girls can see that and they dig it so baddddd!!

It's all about being the outstanding male, who has big balls and isn't scared to go after what he wants! And that's what you did, you had the balls to ask her out and number close! That's a great first step... now for the next step just always remember... Womens wanna have fun ( they even made a song about it )!! So always keep it cocky/funny... don't be afraid to make fun of her.. make her laugh...find her a nickname... and never forget to be the one leading... this is so important you have no idea... take the decisions... be the man and she'll be in ur bed by no time! Never be afraid man!! You wanna escalate?? Then just escalate... never ask her if you can do anything like can I kiss you?? NO.. you just do it!

Just like nike slogan: JUST DO IT!

Well, here I am over-thinking things again...

I haven't seen her in a couple days. Saw her today as I went into my work to pick up some muscle milk for post-workout. I struck up a conversation with her and asked what's been going on. She told me that she has no life or something to that effect (pre-med major, so I'm sure there's truth to that). I told her "we'll have to do something about that". She smiled and said "I have to pass my classes". Not sure how to take that. It wasn't brash like a blow off more like "you'll be a distraction" - i.e. the good kind.

I then started talking to her about school and what classes she was taking. After that I proceed to ask the very beta question "do you still want to do ice skating" (I know...ugh). Which she replied with "sure, I'll let you know when my schedule opens up". Did I botch it by asking her again if she wanted to do ice skating?

Now mind you, I haven't called her yet. I would text, but I don't have a text plan (I know lame). How should I play this one? I pass by her at work several times a day. I usually stop and chat for a minute or two. Should I keep it very brief when I pass by? I don't want to be hanging around too much and show too much interest. And also, do I need a text plan to really open this one up? I don't really want to call her out of the blue to talk about nothing.

Another question: she asked me today for the third time what gym I go to and I said "this is the 3rd time you've asked me that" she said "I forget" - of course with a smile. What's up with that? Is this some kind of weird IOI or just pre-alzheimer's creeping up.

Although one slightly encouraging thing was that she moved closer to talk to me (or at least I think). Like I mentioned before, we work in a grocery store and she works the self checkout desk. I was buying my muscle milk on one of the self checkout stations and she walked to the one right next to mine after exchanging initial greetings and started fiddling around with the bags. Maybe the bags were messed up, but it seemed too convenient at the time.

Anyway, sorry about the length and thanks for taking to time to read this BS.