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A awesome way to survive shit tests is to feel what she says.
Like she says something and it makes you feel bad, then you respond accordingly or good and you respond accordingly. Its the empathy which preveals in the end!
Her: You should buy me coffee
Impact:I would but then all the other girls would want coffee and id be without cash! we cant have that now can we
her:If you really liked me you’d do it
Impact: Is that what you tell all the men you date?
Lets say shes being hurtful
Her: I don't date guys like you
Impact: No wonder you walk around as if youve got a constant period
Her: Your not funny
Impact: And your not the best thing since sliced bread, get over yourself
Her: I never said I was
Impact: bla bla bla, I'm over this backwards forwards bullshit, so anyway <change topic>
If she keeps going give her a bit of a cold shoulder, tell her
Impact: You don't stop do you? we were on that onversation thread yesturday, we are past that now! get with the times
The key is to calibrate and use empathy, you'll always get the right results of both of that work.
With all due respect to your seniority, I think that's the worst recommendation on how do deal with shit tests I've ever read.
You're responses are defensive and let the shit test work.
It's like this.
Jack is hitting on a girl. Jack seems to be confident, funny, and his cocky attitude is both attractive, and seems unshakeable. Girl wants to check if it's just an act, or if he really is a confident, funny, cocky, Alpha male. Because if he is really a confident, cocky, funny, Alpha male then her little jabs won't hurt him.
Thus:
Girl: What do you do for a living?
Guy: I used to be a hitman but I quit cuz I felt bad for all the guns I had to throw away.
Girl [subconsciously thinks: Look, this guys funny and he's pretty confident... let's see if it's real or fake]: You're not that funny.
Real Confident Guy response [he keeps his state of mind and his frame]: It's not funny. I really feel bad for wasting all that metal and plastic. Think of all the work chinese teenagers put into that.
beta male he-bitch[gets slightly hurt, thinks: shit, she jabbed me, I need to jab her back]: Yeah and you're not that cute.
... or ...
Guy [acting like a cocky, funny, alpha male]: Hey, I need your opinion on something. Does this hat make me look too sexy? Like you think I'll lose girls cuz they think I'm out of their league?
Girl [thinks -- this guy is funny, cocky, and playful, as well as confident... let's see if it's a fake or if he's real]: You're not hot enough to be that cocky.
Confident guy [keeps his frame, remains cocky, funny, and playful]: And you're not a good liar.
Weak guy: Yeah, and you're not hot enough to be that bitchy.
In the second example he demonstrates insecurity by DEFENDING himself.
Suppose I talked to Kobe Bryant and said he was a shitty basketball player? Do you think he's going to sit down and defend himself. No he'll just laugh because he knows he's right. Or he might make a funny comment. But it's not going to hit him.
That's what shit tests are. They're TESTS. Bullshit tests. They're seeing if you're full of shit with your cocky super-confident behaviour, or if that's really you. Because if that's really you, you're not going to suddenly become defensive when she acts unimpressed.
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