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I have a similar situation with my girl. These are things that I have started to do that have given me success, but keep in mind I am no expert nor do I claim to be.
Physically, I have to constantly be changing up when I "attack" her to pull her in tight and make out with her or kiss her slowly. Sometimes I'll "jump" her right when she comes over, at a red light, randomly when we are out, pinning her against a wall, picking her up, etc. I just try to keep her on her toes, and she has admitted that she loves that I do this as opposed to only trying to turn her on once we are alone and in a bed. I can tell when she is not comfortable or when I have not done enough before we hit the bed. In that case, I either wont even try to initiate, or I'll try to make an excuse to get her out of bed to see if I can turn her on. By the time you hit the bed, she should be craving you to fuck her brains out and you should be able to feel it.
Emotionally, when she does something that I feel is sexy, I let her know immediately. Whether it is the way she walked, the way she dressed, the confidence she was showing, etc. I'll always let her know that I think things that she does turn me on, regardless of whether she is doing it on purpose. Somewhat side note, but I try to make her as comfortable as possible with me outside of the bedroom, but especially in the bedroom. Tons of foreplay, I don't give it to her when she wants it. Literally to the point where she is begging me, and it drives her nuts which turns her on even more. Not only in the moment, but for the next few days she'll be begging for it. To me, a "good girl" will only be a "freak" in the bedroom if she feels comfortable with you.
In my opinion, it is my responsibility to increase her sex drive, and to make her crave me.
Jesus fuck people... this is the only advice here that even comes close to useful. Pizzaman gets it... His last sentence is 100% DEAD ON!
Most men are so focused on dropping loads that they forget that there is an actual human there. The most important part on a woman is her brain. What PM is doing here is focusing on her. This focus is sexy to a woman. Hes focusing his attention on her needs... not his. In the end his needs are met.
A womans sexuality needs to be looked at like a steam engine. You cant just say Im ready for sex and expect her to just be ready. Women dont work that way. You should always be giving off a sexual vibe with your GF. Keep the fire hot until youre ready to let off alittle steam. My GF was leaving for work today... I kinda ignored her and just waited by the door. When she got there she was talking about something. I ignore this and just look deeply at her. Passionately. I wait. When she was done I give her this deep passionate kiss. Like we just first met. I gently rub her thru her pants. I brake the kiss and spin her around. I open the door and swat her on the ass and told her I loved her. She looked lost and bewildered. Much like the snakes and the snake charmer. Shes been texting me all day how bad she wants me. I tease. You should ALWAYS be keeping things hot.
It should also be noted that three months into a relationship is very much the "honeymoon" phase. If shes not hot for you now, she never will be. Ive had a few buddies go thru this with women that are on anti-depressants. If shes young and new and not sexual you need to go. Ive never seen the guy happy. There is no need for toys, costumes, etc. "spicing it up" is for bored people in long monogamous relationships. I dont need any of these things to make my girl about to pop. I try to select women that are freaks and open sexually. My current GF is much younger than me and has a huge sex drive... Pick the winners from abundance. Not just the one who says yes.
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