Ive been in a relationship with an hb7 for over 8 months now. The sex is great. I love her. Sometimes I feel like im slipping, like im not alpha enough. I have been spending the night every day for the past month or so. She wants me to move in. Shes been short on cash for rent and has been asking me for help which Ive been gladly doing. She asks me to do things like get her a drink when were on the couch or get her laptop out of her room for her. These sound like shit tests and up until now I did them without question. My questions are:

1. How should I balance being alpha/not an afc and doing things out of love?
2. Should I move in with her?
3. Is she taking advantage of me for money?

Be a man and lead, not her bitch that does what she says, and when, too be honest idk if she's taking advantage of you or not,maybe someone else has better input than me on this

Look.

The whole "grab me a drink" and "bring me my laptop" stuff could go either way. Really.

These might be shit tests and her thinking that you are her lapdog.

They might also be her attempts at being cute and just seriously enjoying the fact that she has companionship.

Instead of over-analyzing when she says "get me my laptop!"

Say "OK, give me a headjob!"

Make things equal out. Make her do stuff for you...

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I agree with mack. I think it's perfectly normal for a girl to ask you to simply get her a drink or laptop when you are in a relationship. If you did the same and asked her to get you something and you feel there's resistance, then there might be an issue. I think you are just over analyzing.

I think that's one of the big issues in the PUA community. Guys spend way too much time worrying if they are are too wussy or not and end up over analyzing everything and not being themselves.

1. I think you shouldn't put too much emphasis in being alpha...Oh, and doing things out of love doesn't make you afc...but doing things out of neediness does.

2. I don't think you should move in with her. Moving into a woman's place, regardless of who is paying the bills will lower a man's value in the eyes of the woman. So, if you want to live with her, have her move in with you.

3. I don't know the nature of your relationship, so I can't really gauge if she is taking advantage of you. But, you should ask yourself, "If I were in a similar situation, would she be as willing to help me as I am her?"...Usually you will get your answer.