I first messaged this girl asking her for “girl help” and she gave me solid advice, basically telling me to act uninterested, etc. I ended up messaging her again a week later and we didnt even talk about the other girl, just talked..I would message her occasionally. Started to talk more and flirt. Then saw some depressing status, so I texted her telling her I was there for her, she told me this longgggg story. Basically she had been dating a guy up at school since october, they were on and off for the past because he got drunk, put his hands on her, took all of her stuff threw it outside and made her walk back to the campus. They broke up christmas after finding out he had been in a side relationship.
So I went the sweetheart route saying..im really sorry gorgeous. he obviously isn't looking for the same thing you are and isnt worth your time. You could get any guy you want, Ive known you for a month and I think you're this amazing girl. I cant imagine what ill think in another month or what your friends think. You're a queen you should be getting all that someones got.. it might seem like hes worth working things out with now but if he cant give you all that you're worth then he shouldnt be in your life. Guys like that repeat the same kind of stuff, most people dont change. Even for a girl that be killin em, like you baby.” to which I got “Ohmygod. You just made me cry!” she basically told me thhat it meant soo much to her that I was there for her when she needed someone. She came back to MD, we had dinner plans.Then without like telling me ahead of time told me she was going back to NJ for new years(our date would have been four days after they broke up, I didn't know she had a “guy” never mentioned him) . Invited her out to eat with me and some friends, she said maybe or she'd think about it, but wasnt sure because she didnt know them really. Didn't end up going. Basically I think she is done with the other guy, after some fb statuses she posted. But shes moved on quick, theres been a guy commenting on a bunch of her photos, and i'll see her post stuff on his facebook like “come take care of me im dyingg” because shes sick or smiley faces. I am starting to think that they have a thing to. This girl is a total hottie, I stopped messaging her for about this past week, and started to see those comments. She nevers contacted me first besides wishing me a happy bday. She is off at school right now, how would you all go about increasing her interest in me, possibly decreasing her interest in this other guy, and making it possible for her to not stand me up when she comes home. I dont think its a lost cause, yet. Considering we havent even met up yet. Thanks

Wow you are truly the most reliable friend/emotional door mat this girl can ask for. Move on, bro. Your'e too good for all that.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

Hey man, thanks for the advice. I wouldnt say im doormat material, because I was really only there for her the one time. And we havent really gone anywhere yet, so I don't think im ready to move on. I would like to give it a shot.

You aren't a doormat, but you're deep in the friendzone cave, If you get her out, and your game is solid, you can probably come out, but right now it seems hopeless

My game has been pretty solid up to this point, she has gone for all my jokes, and escalating sexually saying things about her sleeping with me, or giving me a kiss she goes for. I was hoping for some advice on how to take the situation by the horns and turn it around to her thinking "wow i should hang out with this guy asap "

She is rebounding. Trying to build a relationship from a rebound rarely works.

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