Hey guys!

K so heres the story.

I have met a few of my gf's close friends, but she got into a big argument with them and so moved on to a new group of friends. This group is entirely different. They are rich italian girls lol

My girl went to Spain earlier today and is coming back next friday, and because we are all going to prom together (Im two years older), her friends decided to get together when she gets back, go to a fancy restaurant and have some drinks to get to know each other so that it isnt awkward come prom.

Each girl will be bringing their boyfriends (one of which is my age I think). Anyway, I need your help because I really want to make a good impression. They already like me from what they have heard of me, seen me write on her wall, or helped her with school work, so Im already off to a good start, and Im studying in politics so I know how to get attention and keep it, but what I really want is to CHARM THE SH*T out of all of them.

Basically, i want to use group theory to DHV myself in front of my gf, make her proud, and make all her friends go "OMG I love your boyfriend!! Dont ever break up with him bla bla bla" and the guys go like "This dude is the chillest guy ever! hes so sick waaaat" you know what I mean? (if you lead the men, the women will follow. if you win over her friends, youv won over her)

Any good routines, games or tips to keep the conversation flowing all the while DHVing myself, making them laugh and having no awkward pauses?

Like when we all sit to dinner, what kind of opener should I use to get the entire group involved?

This may seem like newbie questions but I just havnt gamed sets in so long cuz Im with my gf. Shes in love with me, but itd be nice to renew the attraction and watch her eyes shine a little as she sees me being high value

thanks ahead guys!
TheMack

This is exactly what I think you should do.

Wake up eat a solid breakfast. Tell yourself this is the best day of your life and you are the man. No body out there is like you, you are one of a kind. You love the world, people are good, everything is good and you are having the best day you have ever had.

Then you need to work out like crazy. Lift, run get feeling even better. Do things all day and feel accomplished, know you look good, know you feel good.

Spend a while getting ready, be well groomed, well styled, looking good and feeling good. Keep these affirmations in your head from the beginning of the day.

Then when night comes along, forget everything, turn your mind off, go out there and just enjoy other people. Never give away your power, just be a cool guy who is having a good time getting to know people without being a suck up or an ass kisser.

Don't go into this thinking you have to make an impression on them. That is the wrong mindset. I understand the fear that comes from loosing your girl but you should just have the deep belief that it doesn't matter if they don't like you because this girl doesn't really matter in the long run. You gotta try to keep that mentality no matter what and no matter how much you like your girl.

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Oh no mate! I have no confidence issues at allll and I can generally charm a room if I wanted to, but Im just asking for any cool tricks or gimmicks I can pull to keep the attention of the group. Cuz whatl most prolly happen is, wel all sit down, stare at each other and itl be kinda awkward at first. I want a good opener thatl engage the group and get the convo flowing right off the bat.

What could also happen is, seeing as how the girls know each other, theyl talk about smth or someone that the rest of us dont know (because we dont go to their all-girl school). How do I avoid that?

anyway I hope you understand what I mean. I always make a good impression but what Im aiming for is an AMAZING one

Mack

Guys seriously! Im meeting her friends this week!

anybody got any good tips on group theory? some routines I can use to keep conversation flowing and not have any awkwardness?

thanks in advance
Mack

What more do you want? Casthenovas post was spot on...

If you do what he said, you will naturally make the right impression, it's when you try to make a good impression things go wrong. The reality is that not everyone you meet in life is going to like you, but that doesn't matter at all. What matters is that you stay true to yourself and what you believe.

Don't try to do anything, just go and have a good time. That will get the desired results.

Yup.

And given the current setting that you are in, don't try to take too much room. I know you want to 'frazzle dazzle' everyone, but try to resist that urge a bit. That has more chances of making you seem like a attention grabing whore then anything else. Avoid being confrontational, be pleasant and enjoy yourself.

Cheers!

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Conversations just happen - yeah you start them by getting ppl to talk about themselves or asking opinions on movies but what's really important is your mindset. And castthenova already gave you a great recipe for that.

You say you have no confidence issues but then you are desperately us for some kind of trick that will impress them, as if you don't trust your own personality to do the work.

I appreciate the advice but your not understanding hehe

I have very little practice with group theory, and Im just saying that, what usually happens at this sort of thing is that at first wer all going t be shy and a bit awkward, and because the girls are friends they will all talk about gossip or wtv stuff that THEY know right? so what Im asking is for some kind of opener that will start it off on the right foot, instead of slowly getting us all to open up.

As for the rest, I can deal with it no problem

thanks again
Mack

What makes you think that's the best approach? Why woudn't you want to slowly get all to open up?

I'll repeat. Don't try to 'own' the conversation. That has a lot of chances to backfire on you in this context. Let things develop more naturaly. Start conversations with the girls' bf. Talk a bit to some of the girls when they are not actively involved in the conversation. Avoid being confrontational. Also avoid to always bring back the converation to yourself. People like themself, so get talking her friend about themself. They will like the attention and thus like you. Same thing as gaming a girl, but with no intention behind it.

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Game we're playing is life
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I never went into a group situation thinking about "group theory".

If you have no problem with self confidence then just go into it being confident. I bet you will be stressed though. You sound like you're worrying about it too much. It's just the same as everything else.

Wtf is group theory lol is that some special thing for the socially retarded ?

Come on now, chill out and have confidence that your charm and personality will tear it up!

Whats this worry bs about it being shy n awkward at the start ? if they are like that then its your job to bring them out of it by engaging them talking about a variety of things...... telling stories (maybe they have a similiar story they will tell you) goddddd its just the art of conversation, if you try and "theory" it or make it artificial then you are going to have problems!!


FLOW FLOW FLOW FLOW FLOWWWWWWWWWWW do not think of the situation because there isnt one!

This is not the answer he wanted, that's why he's not replying.

But often we cause so much trouble in our own life because we expect a certain thing is necessary, instead of going with the flow.