This is hypothetical that the breakup is under common circumstances


Getting broken up with.
Sadly for males, this happens alot more than us breaking up with them. Most of the time you will know why, or it will have been a while in the making. But If a girl breaks up with you, and you dont fully understand why, ask and LISTEN to the reason. This is the most important part. Whether you were not committed enough, too demanding, or did something wrong, this will be your breakthrough for success in the future. Dont worry there will be success again.

I know how hard it is, but you must cop it on the chin. If it applies, admit that you had been doing wrong say sorry, and maybe one day that they can forgive you. Have some time to self reflect, but DONT DWELL, Its in the past and you cant do nothing about it now. LEARN and move on from the mistake/reasons and if there
are areas in your life that were objectified to needing improvement, and you believe they do, well now you can work on those. Or if you dont believe there was anything wrong with you, then you either are in denial, or at least you were true to yourself and who you are.

You may well go through many emotional pre-acceptance phases, of sadness, anger, depression, but you must refrain from blowing your top off. This means:

No begging for forgiveness
No telling her how much you love her and miss her and want her back.
No anger regression towards them
No getting them back
No calling them all night
No stalking lol

These acts only make it worse. It is one of lifes sad paradoxes, and no matter how badly you want to, but the more you do these, the worse it will make it for you. Your friends and social circle will all think less of you, and the people they will tell will hear the worst side of it, spreading fire that will burn many more bridges than just 1.

begging and saying sorry and pleading may have worked when you were both in love, but when she breaks up with you, generally the feelings she had for these to have worked are gone. This is where i believe principles of playing it cool and not being needy come back into play. (like when you first meet someone and use the old cat string theory) make yourself realise that you dont need them.


wish her the best with her life. and leave it at that. you must be strong enough to drop it here. I know how easy that is to say, but deleting their number and getting rid of photos and memories will help.

Everyone is different, but face it. You will now be alone and feel lonely as fuck.
You may get other girls in bed straight away, but they wont help much apart from trying to replace the sex that you miss with your girlfriend. Its best to use this time to rebuild yourself. It may take a little while to get the energy back, but as soon as you do, join a gym, get social again, see friends that you now have the extra time to see. basically try improve on on the 3 big areas of your life: Health, Social and Assets. All which you will have extra time for now!

What else couldnt you do when you were in the relationship that you now can?

Whilst you are occupied with all these, time will do its thing and slowly mend the hurt.

This implies you will not get back together with the ex. It is hard to accept but you'll have to face it. The sooner you can get rid of the hope of getting back with them, the better.

I personally am not a believer in staying close friends after a breakup unless you intend to get back together. This is ESPECIALLY in the case where they break up with you as they will have all the emotional leverage over the friendship and you will just get hurt. There is still too much emotion and heartache that gets in the way. Only once it has truly subsided, which is usually years later, can this work.

At the end of the day. Stay true to yourself, but you can always work on improving yourself. Dont get in another relationship til you are ready, for many reasons. And use all this as a learning curve.

100% Spot on and people should definitely pay attention to whats been said here.

I doubt I'm alone in saying I've had that one girl that after we've broken up, I've done everything in my power to try and get her back, late night texts, saying sorry, telling her how much you love her etc.. and you're right, it doesn't work at all and it really does prolong the pain and hurt that you're feeling.

But I also think going through that is a good thing, it's a terrible time for anyone, but you can learn so much and be a stronger person because of it

Very well written and I fully agree with your perception of the break up.
It's a comfort that we all want to revert back to, to get back what you initially had during the relationship, sadly...you broke up for a reason and must learn from that.

Leaving her alone as hard as it will be is the best thing to do, learn to find your true self again and take the time to understand where it all went wrong...the next relationship you enter...you should enter a more well rounded person with a better understanding of you.

Good stuff...a must read for those that are about to, are going to or have been broken up with.

I personally broke it off with my LTR GF and found myself wanting to get back with her just because I miss her...but it's not worth it...knowing why I did is one thing...understanding that I love her is another...but in the long run, I'll be happier to know that I found someone I truly admire rather than settle for someone that I half way admire.

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You can't make the same mistake twice, the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

I know how hard it is, but you must cop it on the chin. If it applies, admit that you had been doing wrong say sorry, and maybe one day that they can forgive you.

Say sorry? You recommend apologizing?

Nahh just because a girl breaks up with you, it does not mean you were the problem. I don't think we should be so hard on ourselves, sometimes women don't know what they want, and they act irrationally. Then again it may be your fault, and you have to be open about that, but don't place the blame all on you, women ARE NOT perfect by far,and aren't angels, and you need to give yourself some credit.

People take the whole 'no apologies' thing way too far on here. If you did something wrong, it's perfectly fine to apologize.


Not apologizing no matter what isn't alpha....its just being a douchebag.

of course i recommend apologizing! if you read it i said if it applies

Its actually a very manly thing to do