Hello everybody... this is a very complicated problem and i will try to explain it so good i can...

I met this girl in australia in summer 08, kissed/shared feelings on september 09, made it exlusive end of December 09...

She lives 1500 km away in another country...

This has become a serious and dedicated relationship..

On september i went to visit her and stayed at her house with her parents, and so i did on december, in her house, with her parents..

The parents seemed to like me when i was there, and they were happy with us..

Now, it has all changed for the parents since i got home...

They do NOT want her to come visit me for number of reasons:

1) She needs to take care of school
2) They say SHE should be careful of not getting too emotionally attached cause i will probably just go cheat with another girl from my country !!!

Now that is the biggest bullshit i have ever heard...

They are basically trying to brainwash my GF... They also say that my ex (My gf showed a pic of her to them) And they say my ex is more pretty than her! and i will probably go hook up with her if i see her again...

Bullshit again... bullshti and bullshit...

Plus the girl already got self asteem issues this aint helping..

The mom do say she is kidding and that beauty isnt all afterwards, but yeah, i dont see how that helps... my GF does say that she it hurts her a little bit, and she says she trusts me

Now the parents know this is not true ofc.. But why are they saying this??

They are incredibly jelous of her, they dont want her to go, afraid of her leaving the house... They just want me gone so she can find someone close...

Now when i'm on SPAM with her, and the parents bump in, i chat with them, they seem so kind ect...

And they were so kind to me when i was there, they even lend me their car!..

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She is 18 im 19...

What can i do folks??

I cant keep coming down, i want her to come here.. and she wants to come so badly...
But apparently the parents pretend to be happy, but they are in fact not...

Im afraid they gonna screw it up for me!

Thanks..

PS: I most of you probably dont got any experience.. and tbh, i dont even know what i could do.. just gotta wait i guess..

I just need some.. mmm.. every bit of advice would be cool..

some families can be bullies, it's a real shame.
no wonder the girl has self esteem issues when her parents, the people who are supposed to support and care for her are saying such destructive and insulting things, though this is essentially the same "trick" that controlling possessive types use in their relationships; "beat the other person down emotionally so they think nothing of themselves then they'll do what you say". (slightly ranty yes,but a friend of mine has an awful family who beat her up based upon her boyfriends race)

but on the other hand, if they really were that controlling and possessive would they really have let you come to stay? and you seem to have a good relationship with them so it seems a little strange that they would say things that would undermine the relationship. can you be sure that they really have been saying those things to her? it's possible that it could just be an excuse because she's afraid of coming to stay with you.

Nah man it wasent an excuse of hers...
When i was there the mom made fun of her too....

In the first place they didnt want me to stay at their house.. but like 3 days before they told me i could..

Now, the mom says she is kidding afterwards.. but what does that help??

They do some nice things, they are not evil..

I just think they are really stupid....

She has fights from time to time with her parents cause she asks them if she can go.. believe me she really wants to ..

Thats true, they are really stupid for that. But they are worried about their daughter! it makes sense after all.

Honestly, try having a chat with the parents, or convince the girl that she is a legal adult and should travel if she wants to, but that could antagonize her parents!

Go down there again one more time, make the parents really comfortable, and then see!

lol I like you Bimm3r, we always end up posting on the same boards!
anyways best of luck!

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