I've been friends with this girl for 6 or 7 years now and we recently discovered that we had different feelings towards each other and we've been going out for a few weeks now. I was out of contact with her for almost two years and when we met up recently at a party I asked her out and we're on a text/call every day kind of thing now. We've only kissed because our work schedules have been a little hectic recently and haven't had the opportunity to go to the next level. When we're around friends we're constantly talking about sex and teasing each other, but when we're alone the conversation is different. I'm really trying to tease her and bring up sex in the conversation when we're alone but she sticks to more "appropriate" subject matters. I'm not worried about having sex with her because I know that when we finally do have the time, it will happen.

My question is, do I keep on trying to bring up sex in our conversations and try to tease my way into her pants? Or, should I just be patient and see what happens? Is there a reason why our conversations are so different when we're alone?

I really like this girl and want nothing more than for this to be a long term thing, I just don't want to screw it up right here at the beginning. FYI, I almost always try to get her to initiate texting and it works for the most part. I think it's pretty even for us both initiating phone calls. In the past I have come off too strong by initiating everything and I've tried to fix this.

You dont need to bring up sex in conversation to have it.

You can progress sexually through your body language and through kino. Eg. when your making out rub the inside of her thigh back and forth, touch her hair etc etc.
Since you guys have only kissed, i dunno if youve made out or whatever, you should focus first on getting to the next bases. Im sure itll happen for you two eventually. You just need to see eachother more.

Remember, dont rush into the sex (unless she is 100% willing to). Make sure you connect with her emotionally aswell. Females base decisions largely on their emotions and will respond the way you want if you connect with her on that level

I agree with Michael1918, take it slow with her, let her do initiation.

The more you bring up sex with her the more desperate you appear in her eyes and that will turn her off and you will get nowhere. So don't do it but be prepared if you know what I mean.

Make-out, kino and body language is the way to go. Two steps forward and one step back approach. Drive her so crazy that she then practically rapes YOU...

That is what I would do. And it works wonders too... ; )

Best,

J-Dub

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Update

We've gone out a couple of times since I posted this up and I have to say that the light you've shed on this has helped. I've completely dropped even trying to bring up sex in our conversations and tried to connect more with her. I've just had one of the better dates I've ever had and things are progressing more naturally.

Trying to bring up sex in our conversations was very AFC of me. I didn't even think about it until you guys said it and then it clicked. I'm very happy with the way things are going between us right now and I think by me not gaming her anymore has helped. I'm still doing the normal flirting and kino type stuff along with some body language/positioning stuff that I've learned but I don't consider that gaming. She knows that I'm not going to take any shit from her and I'll totally call her on something if it needs that. I think if I continue on this track then we'll have some good times. Still haven't been able to get her alone in my /her places because of logistics but I plan on ringing in the new year with some good times. Thanks again guys.