I feel trapped. I've been in a relationship for almost three months now and it started out great and we don't ever fight or clash. but my gf is gaining weight. i don't mean to sound shallow but she's becoming unattractive and I don't really want to show her off like i used to. She has an awesome personality and we gel pretty well, but i have all but lost physical attraction. I get these mixed feelings sometimes i miss her and want her, then she comes around and I want nothing to do with her.

I gave her sometime to see if she thinned up but she has only gotten larger and her eating and exercise habits show no sign of change but further weight gain. she mentioned something about birth control causing some weight gain in years past but I don't think that has too much to do with it.

the problem is she is in absolute love with me and I just couldn't hurt her so bad, even thinkin about it makes me kinda teary..thats the extent to which she is into me. I know its only been three months but she misses me if she dosen't see me for a day.

I want out. I need help, have any of you guys felt this trapped feeling?

Girls do it to guys all the time. They realize that this guy is head over heels for them but the girl starts to loose attraction. If you feel you can do better, by all means. No one is forcing you to stay in the relationship. Break-ups aren't commonly smooth and painless because of all the emotions involved. But, would you rather cheat on her and make her feel 100x the pain, or just break it off and keep her as a friend to some-what ease the pain? Or, you could even go the sneaky route (which has a risk involved) and start to talk/see/game other girls til you find someone better. Sort of like looking for a better job while you're still employed.

I've been sitting here trying to think of a way for you to politely tell her she needs to hit the gym... but I honestly don't see a way to frame it right.

yeah there is no polite way. telling her to hit the gym would be worse than dumping her, ha.

I disagree- there is a nice way. Why not suggest that you go the gym together. Show her how its done in the weight room, help her do some kick ass cardio.

Anyway, if you feel trapped this close in the relationship, you should probably move on anyway-relationships never work when one party is less interested in the other. Plus, if all it takes to get you out of there is a couple of pounds, she isn't the type of woman you'd like to end up with. Good luck!

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Man, from what I see, she is in love with you, but you arent!

That doesent work man...when you love a girl, you love her even If she gets uglier. So my advice, end it up. And tell her the thruth. That you dont feel the same as she does, and that you are a little shallow.

Truth is always better.

Listen,,, make no mistake about it. Attraction is a fundamental part of a relationship. That is something that has got to be there. It is nothing to feel guilty about.

If that goes away,,, you just lost a big part of the whole deal. It's like a fatal flaw in a relationship.

"We've got it going on" accept that she's a hitter, or she's a car thieff, or a nympho-maniac, or her ass is so big I've got to lube the doors on the Toyota just to get her in. Or whatever that one thing is. I say for men who know they have choices, move on.

Oh and one last thing. I'm the Nightrider, I'm old as dirt. I've actually had the experience to see the changes that happen to some pretty girls twenty years down the line when they let themselves go, it can be shocking! I mean,,, it's like some ugly animal crawled into her body and took over. Yike!

I'd say, don't stay with women long term unless all the pieces come together.

Either way, plenty of ways to slice this apple.

Good luck on whatever you decide to do!

if you want out, then be honest and get out. Otherwise, start going to the gym and invite her along.....but if you are unattracted to her when you are both together, then I'd venture to say it isn't JUST the physical attraction.

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