This little situation is about my gf and I, and I need some straight black and white who's right who's wrong and what to do's. In the beginning of our relationship (1 and a half years together) i was extremely insecure, and would secretly go through her things -- read her journal, went through her phone ect. When I told her about this, naturally she was upset and since then I've really had to find it in me to accept and trust her. Fast-forward to yesterday, Im sitting in her car waiting for her as she goes into a gas station. I grabbed her phone to put on a song from youtube, when all of the sudden she appears out of nowhere like a fucking genie and catches me with her phone. She snatches it and assumes that i was going through her stuff, mind you 'youtube' is still open. She comes back in and i tell her what was actually going on. She doesnt believe me, all hell breaks loose, and the downward spiral keeps spiraling downward. Eventually it gets to the point where she wants me to apologize and 'understand why she would think i was going through her things', but in anger i refused to acknowledge i did anything wrong. Why would I? I was wrongly accused and was now being reprimanded for doing nothing wrong. By the end of it all, she dropped me off at a bus stop and Im bussing home fuming at what just happened. A day later and we havent talked, so I need some advice here, on who's right, and what I should do? Maintain radio silence? Call her? This throws me off and I dont want my ego dictating my judgement.

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You didn't do anything wrong. You don't owe her an apology. If you apologize just to appease her you will be weak. Don't contact her...let her contact you. If she starts in on you again, end the conversation right there and then on the spot.

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So you don't have your own phone to visit Youtube on? What a joker.

I sort of agree with younglady here... Unless this actually is the truth and she had her phone bluetoothed up to the car's sound system... and yours wouldn't have worked.

Are you telling us this story so we'll side with you and tell you what you want to hear? Because the way you tell it, you don't sound at fault.

If you actually picked her phone up to snoop, then you know you're in the wrong (though I still wouldn't apologize at this point... you've already given her another story).