This may sound funny to some of you. Ive been dating this girl for almost 3 months now, she is really great and we have finally expressed our love for one another. She told me about her sexual past before, it diddnt really bother me. But now that I have feelings for her, feelings about the situation are coming up. The past two days thinking about it makes me anxious, makes it hard for me to sleep or even eat properly.

Cliffs:

-she is 19, im 24
-my sexual past= lost virginity at 22, ive had issues with anxiety. Ive always pushed girls away. Had plenty of chances, even had a girl in my room twice wanting to screw but i put the TV on instead. My previous relationship was largely about sex, because I felt like I needed it. Tons of sex, everywhere, even made a porno, limited oral and even did anal once. She ended up saying she was pregnant possibly to keep me around longer, then a few weeks later faked a miscarriage. Ive only had sex with my current girlfriend and previous girlfriend. Ive traded pics with women, had women get on cam for me for me to fap to. Ive told her about this instance, she dosnt know ive only been with one person though or lost my v card at 22. She thinks ive got lots of booty back in the day.
-her sexual past= all within the past few months before meeting me. She said she felt like it was needed to be done, she wanted companionship. She sucked some dude off, when she swallowed his load he said "like a boss". She brought that up because I said like a boss one time and she was like "thats what he said". Her second sexual encounter was losing her virginity, she said she only had sex once. She also during her college days got into camming with guys on omegle, where she would get their SPAM and cam with them. It spiked up more yesterday, she was showing me this book she was writing about her past experiences. Down the list she shows "i sucked a dudes dick" that worked me up, made me very anxious. What im even thinking about more is that she wrote nothing about me. She was probably seeking validation from guys, she said guys never really paid much attention to her.
-Its like I keep visualizing her going down on another dude, the place I kiss.
-we ourselves have tons of sex. 3 times last night, nothing sunday, 2 times saturday, 2 times friday, 4 times thursday.

For some reason this bothers me and I really want to get over it because she is a great girl. I partly feel like its my ego taking a hit because she has had more sexual partners then me even though I have more experience. She was originally quite clueless about sex and very tight.

Does anyone have any advice on getting over this hurdle? I dont want to run away from this, partly because ive always ran away from relationships in the past; for what reason im not sure. I really do have some strong feelings for this girl.

Hi.

It's clear that this is an insecurity issue. You shouldn't be worrying about your gf's sexual past. I've had virgins, more experienced girls, and girls that were pretty close to my sexual experience. I can tell you it does not matter at all.

So she sucked some dude and so what? You weren't together back then and I bet that she doesn't think the same eventhough she's not your first partner either.

Regarding that she doesn't include you in her book there can be plenty of explenations. Perhaps she is only writing about things she regretted. But what I think even more possible is that she writes only about things that are closed, so she would be able to fully describe every experience, and your relationship currently is ongoing so there is not really a need to write about that.

Now about possible solutions to your problem. This is clearly an inner issue and is also very typical. This will only go away if you stop thinking about this all together. Just reassure yourself that this problem is unimportant and don't pay attention to it. Any time it rises try distracting yourself from it. It might seem like running away from the problem but in reality it's not because the problem is your malicious thinking pattern and that you should stop immediately. Time will heal this for sure because sooner or later you yourself will realize how unimportant this is and how unnecessary it is to waste your energy on thinking about this.

Peace,

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Thanks man, always solid advice.

I do have obsessional thinking. Something that needs work.

She swallowed another guys load. She was a virgin at the time, experimenting.

The only thing that should matter to you is that she tried it, which means she knows if she likes doing that or not. And she isn't doing that for him anymore, or anyone else. She's your woman, fuck her. Fuck her hard, fuck her long, fuck her right, and experiment with her and tell her you want her to do the same with you.

If you want to cum in her mouth, tell her you want to try it. I can't possibly imagine a guy being upset that his girl swallowed for someone else in the past when she is swallowing his loads right now.

Yea, im just making a big deal about nothing. I guess the biggest thing that irritates me is that technically she has more sexual partners then me, even though I did pretty much everything with my ex girlfriend over a period of 2 months. I almost want to just go out and get a blow job from a random and see if that does anything but my feelings for her are too strong for me to do that.

She did suck me off once, and it was because she was on her period and diddnt want sex. She did it for a solid 15 minutes, I couldnt get off. Told her she can stop, im not gona bust from it.

Its been driving me nuts for the past few days to where I dont even want to eat. I go through phases like this.