So I just recently got back with an ex. We were together for 3 years, off for about a year doing our own thing, and have mutually decided to get back together. I'll tell you why but first let me tell you about this girl.

She is 28 and 3 years older than me(senior when I was a freshman in High school and just about untouchable at that time), complete HB that I always had a crush on, has all her stuff together (finances, nice house, new car, boat), and is more alpha than any other female I know. Her social proof and charisma is out of this world and she can dominate just about any conversation with any group of people no matter where shes at. She has a ton of great friends, always stays positive besides the Bi**hy attitude she has at times just like any other female, and is a complete natural to the game. Shes has had the reputation of being a player (not a sl*t that just goes around getting slammed). What I mean by player is that when she is single she sees multiple guys, goes out on multiple dates, and is classy enough to maybe give you a kiss at the end if your game is right. I believe this because she made me wait 3 months before having sex and this was when I was on top of my game. Don't get me wrong, I believe there's a dirty girl in every woman but at the same time a lot of them still have class among the sl*ts out there. She's also the oldest of 7.

Ok now for the breakup. We ended because we were constantly fighting and since I was living in her house she felt she had the right to kick me out if it things got to bad even though I was helping with the bills. We never got physical, but we argued like crazy and after the 3rd time she kicked me out I was gone for good. After the break up I started a new job, got back in the gym, bought a downtown loft, and was slamming a new girl every other weekend. I got the player reputation too when I'm single but in my case I'm more of the sl*t.

She didn't want the break up and continued to call me about twice a month even though I let her know I was completely through with her. After a while these random girls I was hooking up with got old. Your supposed to get over a girl by slamming 10 other ones but I never truly got over her. We ended up hooking up one night and from there started talking again. She never really wanted to be done with me. Now I got her back on my terms

So its been about 2 months now since we hooked up and things are starting to turn directions. Like I said this chick is a natural alpha female. My terms are starting to fade and I don't want her thinking she can come back into this dominating and wearing the pants. This girl is fun and everything I would want in a wife. My only problem is that she may not know her role as a woman and can be a little to independent. Is there any advice that y'all may have or any good books out there that may address this issue.

Maybe I need to learn a little more about my role as a man? Sucks to say that but I'd hate to miss out on a girl I love because I didn't know how to handle her. Two books I've read that helped with explaining the alpha male is without embarrassment and the way of the superior man. Any other dating books out there that may help me keep my sanity and relationship with the one girl I really care about without giving up my manhood? LOL...I'll be single forever before that happens again. That's a dark place my friends and I'll never go back.

Basically this:

1. Have a goal with your life and work hard to achieve it, ie. get a house, car, boat whatever

2. You should be controlling your life, making plans, deciding long term goals. She should follow.

3. If she tells you what she wants you to do but you don't feel like it you tell her. Learn to say no.

I realized from your post that she is on a pedestal. You value her more than yourself. Which is why she is acting like a bitch and take control.

I also realized that once you broke up you went back to your own self (ie start gym again etc.). Now this is what you should be when you are with her. Don't get comfortable with the relationship because she will dump you again.