Ei guys. Not sure if this enters in the relationship forum... it's a relationship... but seems quite a short lived one

Very strange situation:
Met a cool girl at a friend's party, she was really into me. Like really! She came to visit me (we live in different cities).
We hook up, slept together had a great weekend. She even told me she was a bit afraid cause she was really liking me. She said she wouldn't be seeing any other guys and asked for me to do the same.

We continued contact and arranged for me to go meet her. Then after 2 weeks and right before I should go visit her, she asked me not to come.

Say, what?
We talked on the phone some days after and she told me she was having some problems in her life and besides she is still not over her ex (there is nothing going on between them tough, it ended long ago, the guy lives quite far away and has a new life).

What the hell... is she a bit crazy or what the heck is going on here?

Assume there is another guy in the picture and move on.

She's on her own agenda and you walked away with some action, time to cut your losses.

Hum, that doesn't seem like a very adult attitude. She said clearly when we talked in the phone there was no one, it was not about that.

She can be lying, true. But then again, I shouldn't just be assuming stuff that might not be true to make it easy to deal with a situation.

I prefer to know what you think in the way I should contact her. Should I just send her ping texts? Should I wait some time and then call her with light unrelated talk if she doesn't call me? Should I call her right away and have a very serious conversation?

This is dead simple. The ex left her and now he is back. Maybe they will get back together, maybe not. But the timing here for you is bad. I suggest you don't keep your hopes up and go find someone else.

Don't even think about the things she said. The fact is she cancelled a meeting with you. This is what matters.

No, you didn't understand, but the ex is not back in the picture. The guy is from far away, he is not back here and he now has a family (we have common friends, so I know that much).
Thinking about ex, and problems with her family was the "excuse" she used.
In this part you are dead right tough. But it's kind of bothering me that I don't know what really happened... it's not like I had this happening to me in the past so I cannot make comparisons.

Not an adult way to look at it? The adult way is to understand the situation enough to make an informed decision.

Have you read what you wrote?

"We continued contact and arranged for me to go meet her. Then after 2 weeks and right before I should go visit her, she asked me not to come."

"We talked on the phone some days after and she told me she was having some problems in her life and besides she is still not over her ex"

"Thinking about ex, and problems with her family was the "excuse" she used."

What does this tell you? That you are NOT a priority. She's looking for reasons not to see you. She cancelled the night before. Do you think somebody that is supposed to be into you would be using excuses to not see you? Think about this logically.

Sometimes you walk away without knowing what happened. That is life. Most of the time it is futile to try to find reason. You can contact her if you want but I would advise against it.

Her ex came back in town or dropped an emotional bombshell on her. Just move on. If she gets over it and she likes you she'll message but don't hold your breath.

Don't always listen to what girls say, especially concerning their exes. He's obviously back in her life to some degree.

Why not slept with you, you pay me i always slept with you


Thanks
Monika