Hello guys, need some advice.

I broke up with my GF in an alpha way when I discovered she lied a lot, and even though I can't prove - I am pretty sure she cheated. I also know for a fact that she kept another guy as a "reserve" (long-distance) boyfriend when we were already in a relationship.

She still calls me, says she wants to be with me, loves me and other usual crap. I picked up the phone only once in ten days and answered also only one message (she called 30+ times after the break up).

Since I consider her hot I would like to know what is the best tactic to still keep her around for casual stuff - not push her away too far but still not being beta and serving her as an emotional tampon. The problem is that we are not any more in the same cities and therefore there is no way of bumping into each other or going for casual drinks.

Help appreciated

I think it's bad idea to be honest.

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You need new girls. Not your ex GF, even though if you feel this way she was probably never truly your GF in the first place, more of just a FB.

Okay, it's a surprisingly easy thing to do. Just don't be a dick about her past relationship behavior. Wait another week or so and then invite her out as "friends". If you were good in bed, then she'll want to keep sleeping with you. Sleep with her. Then follow the FB rules:

Tubarao's relationship rules: http://puarticles.blogspot.com/2008/01/ ... rules.html

It's really that easy. Just don't wind up back in a relationship. Also, make sure you're out pursuing other women while you continue to see this girl.

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Thanks Wolf,

but it is hard to set up a casual friendly date since we are not in the same cities.

She keeps saying she will come and visit me (flying distance which means a several days stay) just to see me and I refuse.

1. What should I say, how to put it?
2. Why shouldn't I pursue other women while dealing with her? Don't lying-cheating bitches deserve that ?

It's long-distance? Well then, what's the issue? Just let her visit you, then sleep with her. I don't understand what the problem is. You don't even need to discuss it. Just don't agree to be monogamous.

/I said you should DEFINITELY see other people while dealing with her. I think you misread my post.

-Wolf

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