Hey
New guy here for this forum, but don't let that scare you away, have been a part of the danish community for pick up for some years now.
Background:
I recently started dating a girl from my university, who I met on the russ trip(5 day introduction party in the woods). We started out as friends, but love was in the air, and after a few weeks we began dating. We toke it slow and were first officially gf/bf since november. Wonderful girl in many aspects, but man, I realised my inner game weren't that awesome when it came to handling relationship stuff.
My girl seems perfect, and we got a relationship without drama and wonderful sex, she said Im the best she ever tried and from the looks of my bleeding back I guess she enjoys letting me fuck her. I can fuck her pretty much everytime I want and everywhere I want. She recently told me she was ready to try some new stuff in the bed with me. Btw, the guy who made up the sentence "I own this pussy", God bless you.
Back to the topic, one of my questions is: Is it normal for a girlfriend to give you compliments all the time? For example, she tells me all of her friends outside the university is jealous of her becouse she got me. She tells me im much better than her and she doesnt understand why Im with her. She tells me stuff like she overhead a conversation between two girls from her classes talking about her not being good enough for me and she tells me she can often see girls in front of her in the class looking through my pictures on facebook.
Is it normal for her to tell me this stuff and is there any deeper meaning with this I just cant see? It boost my confidence, but I simple can't stop thinking if there is sticking anything behind all the sweet things she tells me or am I just paranoid?
The other thing is, that several of her male friend and her ex bf is hitting on her. In the beginning I chose just to laugh of it and then change subject. But now when we are in an exclusive relatinship should I bring it up that I goes to my nerves. She tells me pretty much everything, especially on this field.
Firstly her ex. She told me they broke of roughly 6 months before I met her, the last time they had sex was 2 weeks before I met her. Her ex has cheated on her several times she told me, she just never had the guts to leave him. She told me it was a mutual break up though. After her ex finds out she is dating me he starts to angrily tell her that I abuse her and take advantage of her. Pretty AFC im my mind so I didnt really worry. A week into december my gf tells me that her ex now just wanted to be friends. Then she told me she was going to trade christmas presents with him, couse both of them had bought their gifts for each other before I knew my gf. She voluntered to cancel it when she saw my AFC reaction, but I tought what the hell and let her do it. She told me she met him and exchanged gifts and talked for like half a hour at her home.
Now she got information from some mutual friends between her and her ex, that he doesnt expect my relationship with her to last and he will win her back soon. She got mad about it and told me that ruined his chance for being friends with her.
That was the ex, hope you still are reading along
Now about some of her male friends who are hitting on her. She told me from the start that she had alot of male friends, simple becouse she liked the less drama there were with male friends compared to female friends. She tells me that there is several boys(counting now 6) who are hitting on her, both her male classmates and male friends. To one party at school a big body builder was hitting pretty hard on her, I were like sure she can talk to who ever she wants, and just lightly flirted / small talked with other gorgeous girls.
He actually got her number, and forced her to accept him on fb on his mobile. I confronted her on this part and she told me she was to scarred of him to say no and reject him, and she told me she want me to me more protective when other boys talk to him.
Another things is i recently looked at her facebook wall couse I would write to her and then saw like 10 messages from several different guys complaining that she doesnt answer their messages and try to set up meetings with her. Even her ex posted several pictures on her facebook wall, which only my girlfriends dad commented. She doesnt comment anyone of them I noticed, but I Couldnt wonder why so many guys, several clearly big AFC were hitting on her. Is she giving some hints to the boys when Im not around?
Thats it, you made it
I would like some feedback on how you guys see this relationship. Is there something suspicious about it or is it actually a healthy relatinship where Im just being paranoid and insecure like one big AFC?
All kind of feedback are more than welcome
With love from Denmark
CHAT