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So first post here..and i'm in a bit of a pickle.
This girl and I hit it off from work and at the christmas party, as expected we both got drunk and had sex.
I talked to her the next day after work and we both agreed we wanted to see each other again but it did feel awkward obviously..
Its been a week and i've seen her at work a few times and have had a few short 10-15 min chats with her, we get on really well but it's not possible to kino at work , just too risky. We are both pretty busy and work late so trying to fit in a date after work is tough.
Another problem is she lives relatively fair away and has to get the bus into and out of work so again trying to arrange things in the evening for her is really hard.
I really want to make some moves so it doesn't end up in friendzone but I'm struggling with how to organise dates.
Do I wait till next week when we are both free on friday and arrange smething then, or do I push for sooner and most likely risk rejection due to lack of logistics for her?
Don't wait. If you want her, go after her. But be tactful about it. If you overpursue, she'll sense it. I would go for something light, easy, friendly, open. A place where you can talk, and do kino if you want to. Your goal should be to show her that you are cool with the sex you had, cool with more, or less. Whatever she is comfortable with.
Make sure you ask, and then leave it alone. After you ask, do not contact her until you get a response. If you don't get a response by the day of the date, then coolly and confidently remind her of your plan. If she flakes, it's not game over, you can just play it cool and win points. Chances are she's not sure if she should regret fucking you when drunk or not. Play it cool around her when she is sober and I think you'll be fine.
CHAT