Hey guys.. I just wanted to let some things off my chest.. Before i started this whole pick up thing, i suffered from social anxiety, depression, and the list goes on.. I was never a bad looking guy, but i had no game, AT ALL... I sometimes went to sleep thinking i was going to die alone, and never get a girlfriend..

I decided to make a change.. I went to the mall, got new clothes, paid attention how i looked.. That was just one step.. I picked up the book " The Game" im not even going to mention the authors name, because on this site, it is VERY well known.. That started it for me.. I wanted to know more.. So i picked up " The Natural" By Richard La Ruina.. Or known as " Gambler" His book is incredible.. I started off going to clubs with some wings i met on here.. The main goal for me, since i couldn't talk to women well, was to open and lead sets.. To my surprise, i did really well opening sets, but when it came to closing, not so much.. My wings and i went separate ways, and i was not going to let that stop me from finding the girl i always pictured that was perfect to me.. I went through some girls, cycled through the bad ones.. ( The main reason people get into the game is to get laid, yes. But after awhile you look for something more) I met this amazing girl at work... Completely amazing. One problem, She was a lesbian, because all guys suck.. I thought she was amazing i didnt let that stop me.. I did not use any game on her, i was myself. Some guys tried to get with her, all failed. I didnt.. 3 months later, she is my girlfriend. ( Shes bi guys, now she knows)

I can honestly say, if i never got into the game in the first place, i wouldn't of had the confidence of asking for her number and ask to hang out that started it all. She is amazing. Everything i have ever wanted.

Have hope guys, shes out there, you'll find her.. Before i end this, i want to read something out of " The Natural" Gamblers book.

" I encourage you to use your moral compass when operating from this new place of strength. Use these skills to treat women better, not worse. And when you find that special someone, offer the love and respect she deserves"

I dropped everything about the game for this girl, because she is the reason why i got into the game in the first place. To find the girl thats right for me in every single way. I'm retired.

-Bear

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Mystery, you created your ( future) wing

Watch out. When you think "I've done enough, now I'm retired" you'll slowly fall back into your old chode behaviours. It's not because you've gotten 1 girl that now you've finished your development and you need to stop working on yourself. Your girl will just leave you when you'll regress to chode mode again, without being mean. I see many guys do this : "I achieved success and now I can sit down and relax". As soon as you live with that mindset, you already lost or your time is running out. Get something straight in you. You can never relax. That strong drive that you had to get a girl plays a role in the attraction that she felt for you. When you lose that drive to strive towards something better in life, you're procrastinating & you're simply "in comfort" hoping that nothing goes wrong in your relationship...your girl will just lose interest more and more.

It takes consistent action to be a man of value. Strive towards becoming better than yesterday, every day in anyway that you can. Don't fall in the trap that you now have what you want so it's cool if you sit your ass on a chair and contemplate how good is your life. That is when you start to lose your girl. And you'll be surprised by how many time I've seen this.

Guy is a chode. He becomes "cool" through consistent pressure on himself, gets a girl. Now he thinks that the girl will stay with him "just because of him". You know that "just because we're good together" (he doesn't understand that the reason the girl goes out with him is because "he is cool", not because a part of his soul or whatever). Girl realizes he felt back in chode mode, and she leaves him. Common phenomenon, I've just had a friend who experienced it. Don't let it happen to you too.


FlaiR

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Greatness is never borned

I was similar to yourself, good looking, well dressed nice guy. At 18 I was excellent with girls and at the age of 17 I'd already slept with a professional model. However a few events over the next few years really knocked my confidence. I worked in a few bad companies that I will not elaborate on and I broke my back aged 22 and gained a little weight and completely lost my confidence. I mean my confidence levels where so low that in social situations I would begin to sweat and shake uncontrollably! This was the polar opposite to the real me, the guy I was as a kid/teen. The doctors said that I had "post traumatic stress" disorder.

I knew the problem was in my head and I decided to sort my inner game out after a case of oneitis that made me feel very down.

I started reading psychology and I began to push myself socially. I joined a university and educated myself within this period. I started working as a wine importer and got passionate about that. Joining clubs in the process.

When I decided that I now wanted a girlfriend I studied game and couldn't believe all the things I was doing wrong. I practiced by going out on as many dates as possible and had a few serious 6 month relationships then ended them as I knew they where not the girls I wanted to spend my life with. I used online dating to great success as it let me source dates pretty easily and I could often do 2 a week. This helped me not be needy. I practiced my jealousy controll so as I was never the jealous man. I made sure to lead and escalate.

This culminated in me finding my wife or I should say, my wife finding me. She asked me out and she proposed to me. She's intelligent, hot, ambitious, sexual and loyal.

Outter game is a great way of sourcing a partner. Inner game is the key to keeping her!