Woah dude, sounds tough, but at least you got a lucky break with 25k. My first advice is this: Get the fuck outta there, make preparations for february, get a place where you can stay for a while and where you can look for a new job. I will break down your story piece by piece and advice you like that:
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Hey guys,
So here is the story
last may, I meet this one girl from a dating apps. I play my game really well. I manage to get laid with her on our first date. After that day I didnt even call her or text her. She texted me saying she wanted "more" and we end up in the same hotel. After the second date I asked her if she would like to be my girlfriend and she said yes. She invited me to come live with her.
So after two dates, you move in with someone? That's like the fastes move I've ever head off, and honestly I think it is a very desperate thing to do for the bot of you. Make the woman work for you man! I am dating a woman right now and every time we get into some sort of disagreement or quarrel I break up with her. I say: "lets'just be friends, this is not working" . THen she changes her attitude and does her best to please me. This way I stay the dominant part of the relationship. AND THAT'S THE ONLY WAY A MAN-WOMAN RELATIONSHIP WORKS HEALTHY! Be the man in charge!
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Now the nightmare started.
I was working in a computer repair shop. I got an offer to for an overseas training. So the day before I was supose to leave for the training, we have a small party at the house. I was drunk and tired. I woke up around 1pm and end up to missed my flight. She intentionaly didnt wake me up. I was so fucked up. I lose my job.
That is so weak of you to say. It was not her fault, you got drunk on the day before a flight?! And screw up an opportunity that your boss gave you? This is your responsability man, not hers! You sound like a 10 year old boy blaming his mother. Grow up and grow some balls. If you have an appointment, keep it. All people with worth do this.
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I got a into a few new job but I was fired because of her.
Now Im a stay at home boyfriend while she's working.
Can you explain that? It sounds to me you are so beta, she controls you and is pushing you around. Probably this happens at work also and people see little value in you as a collegue. Work on your presentation and be a teamplayer.
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-No cash
-My confidence drop to critical rate
-I cant go out anymore
-My insecurities grow
-We rarely have sex anymore. She go mad when I try to touch her.
She has grown tired of you and unconsciously thinks you are worthless. These things are intertwined. Yet she probably has fears or insecurities to discuss the problem or break up with you.
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-I gain a lot of weight.
That's a logical consequence of the stress that comes with this. \
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-I manage to win 25k in a competition but still waiting for the money to arrive this february
-I want to run away, end this relationship but somehow she know how to make me stay. When ever I reach my limit. She turn into some kinda good girl and treated me like a King.
The 25 k is your route out of this. Yes she's is going to cry, and treat you like a king, but thats just because she prefers a bad realtionship over loneliness. You see it happen all the time. It is something I like to call a AFC relatinship. The man is to beta to make the decisions and control the relatinoship, and the woman is to insecure because she thinks she is not good enough for a cool guy. YOU BOTH NEED TO GET OUT AND LET LIFE ENRICH YOU!!!
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-Im in a emotional prison.
Help me~
Seriously dude, I am not joking. I was in the exact same prison and found my way out. I had a 5 year relationship, we lived for 3 years in her house. SHe was making more money than me and worked at a shitty company with no prospects. When I quit my job she made me feel like shit and even frustrated the process of finding a new one. WHen I found a new one I made a major career improvement and instead of being happy for me she got jealous. She started keeping me awake at night and as soon as I noticed she was doing it on purpose I reatreated to my parents place. It was a humiliation, but I had to protect my new found job. Not because I thought my job was more important then her, but because I realized she didn't want me to become all I could be, because she was used to me filling in her perfect image of me (being the father at home every day taking care of the kids). I never looked back and I never let a women walk over me like that. If a woman is not easily dominated, I break up with her. I test on this during the courting phase!
The break up was terrible, fighting over money, lots of friends gossiping and 5 years of working on becoming a family down the drain. But the only thing I realized later when I had PUA to guide me was this:
Look at your OWN responsabilities and mistakes. Women are emotional creatures that rarely know what they want and can be abusive and manipulative if you don't dominate. They will domesticate you into a puppy and they will even make you love it! A lot of males are happy living like this, but you and me are not. I can tell by the way you said you went down and even gained weight. All these things happened exactly the same to me. But you need to get out and stand on your own 2 legs. THats how you become an independent person, and you become a lot more attractive to high value women.
I remember when I was with her the last year we didn't have sex either. I masturbated and thought about small exotic women with big breasts (the opposite of my GF then haha) years later, when I had found a woman like that and made her my girlfriend I took her to a bar where I knew my ex would be there as well. She was blue with jealousy. It felt like a great victory! I was with the hottest woman in the bar, something my ex always reminded me was something I could never do...
But levels keep rising, in retrospect I feel kind of stupid about that and I learned to be less negative and try to learn and let go. THis helps a lot. BUt in your case, you need to focus on being your own man. Make your own money, have your own place to stay, and let women WORK HARD to be in your life cause you are a high value guy!
Good luck man! Hope this helps!
Buccaneer
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