Found this post while killing my time on Reddit. It's got some good insight to keep your girlfriend happy. Check it out.
Man Mantra for a Happy Girlfriend/Wife
Alright men, let’s face it. You know how to make your girlfriend happy – that is why she decided to be your girlfriend, right? I’m not writing this post to tell you how to make a girl happy because that would just be silly. Instead, I’m going to give you insight on keeping that happiness throughout your relationship – because the world needs happy people.
And remember, don’t go overboard with this list and try to do everything by the end of the week – your girlfriend will think that something is up. The purpose is to reference this post every now and then and to be reminded of those little things that may seem meaningless and insignificant but generate some happiness.
Insight 1: The little things are never little.
Little things equal 1 point. Big things equal 1 point. You buy your girlfriend a $1 panda that says “I love you” = 1 point. You buy your girlfriend a nice, expensive dinner = 1 point.
Now don’t go be a cheapskate – just remember that if you are trying to impress your girlfriend or make her happy, you don’t have to go spend a lot of money to do so. Thoughtfulness and creativity through the “little things” will fill her heart with joy and make her happy. The “little things” can also be as simple as cuddling and helping her around the house.
Insight 2: Cards are very important (Birthdays, Anniversaries, Christmas, etc).
I can’t tell you how many of my friends have been so disappointed, mostly saddened, by the lack of a card for a special occasion. Why??? We are suckers for the sentimental. No card = “my boyfriend doesn’t care.” Is this silly? Yes, it is because a card should not be needed for someone to know that you care about them.
EDIT: As people have commented below, cards are cheesy -- its not about the card but what you write in them. Heck, you don't even need a card -- you can write a letter too!
Bonus points: give your girlfriend a card for no reason or send her an ecard. This will seriously earn you major bonus points. A card for no reason = “my boyfriend is not being forced to do this, he is the best boyfriend ever and I’m so happy.”
Insight 3: Always make her your number 1 when it comes to other girls
Most guys have ex-girlfriend and/or girls that are friends. A lot of fights and misunderstanding comes from these relationships. To avoid conflict and unintentional hurt, your girlfriend should always be number one. How do you do this? Well, you can start by telling her she is your number one – and not just a onetime thing… reminders here and there will go a long way. You should never choose to spend time with an ex or a girl friend over your girlfriend. And if you have girl friends that want to hang out with you, make sure you invite your girlfriend to come along.
EDIT: Clarification: I am in no way saying that you girlfriend needs to be involved in EVERYTHING that you do with other girls. The whole point was that if you girlfriend never feels like you are purposefully trying to hang out with girls without her, then you will build her trust and cause less fights revolving around jealousy.
Insight 4: Listen, don’t’ solve
Women like to vent about their problems. Why? We just want someone to listen to us and take an interest in what’s going on in our lives. Sometimes there are problems you can help us solve but for the most part, we just want you to listen.
Insight 5: Every girl loves a surprise
This insight goes back to the “bonus points” under insight 2. Anytime you do something unexpected for your girlfriend (plan a surprise date night, send an ecard, send flowers, etc), you will fill her “happiness tank” to full.
Insight 6: Reinforcements
Compliments came naturally when you first started dating your girlfriend, right? Maybe you told her how pretty she was, maybe you told her how you loved spending time with her, maybe you told her that she was awesome, etc. You probably told her these things to make her aware of how you felt about her. Since your feelings have probably not changed toward her, you probably haven’t felt the need to continually remind her how awesome she is. Women love reminders and reinforcements about your feelings toward them. Next time you think about how awesome your girlfriend or whatever positive thoughts come to your mind… don’t leave the thoughts in your head… express them out loud!
So there are six key insights to keep in mind when you’re wondering what you can do to show your girlfriend/wife you care.
Women of Reddit… let me know if you agree.
And if any guy is up for the challenge, it would be great to see a Woman Mantra for a Happy Boyfriend
EDIT 1: I am so surprised that this thread has had so much activity. Thank you to everyone who has provided feedback!!! There is so much insight in the comments. As so many people have mentioned, each person needs to make their own "mantra" for their Significant Other and the insight's above are just some general ideas. Thanks again!!!
EDIT 2: The responses in this post have seemed to turn overnight. A couple of clarifications... I am not giving advice for you to go out and buy your girlfriend meaningless things to make her happy.... quite the contrary. I used the analogy of buying an item to show that less money spent on something meaningful is way more important than spending a lot of money to impress a girl. I also referenced cuddling and helping around the house as the little things -- things that don't involve money.
This is not a mold or stereotype of women. I think that most people on reddit are smart enough to take advice as it applies to them and disregard the rest. That is all -- nothing more.. nothing less.
EDIT 3: This was meant to be a light-hearted post. Not "the ultimate advice on how to have a great relationship." Yes, compared to the deeper elements of a relationship, this list can seem a bit shallow. This list is not meant to replace the deeper elements but to compliment and add to them. Of course things like the way your Significant Other looks at you and communicates with you are far more important than this list but your Significant Other will either do those things naturally or not. So please.... don't take this list as me telling you that these are the most important things.
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