OK so here is a real problem. Don't know if pua's can help, but they've always helped me in the past so here we go. This is kinda fucked up.

So I'm at uni, I have a girlfriend. She leaves to go back home (another country) for 3 months in June. I suggest me going with her to the airport because she has an early flight and has to wait there by herself for like 5 hours. Also, I am leaving uni the same time and the airport is near my home. So it makes sense for me to pack and go with her (only to the airport though, when she leaves, I go home). We are taking a bus that leaves at 8:30. I go to her house before hand and drop off my suitcase. I then fuck up big time. I get all worried and act like a dick because 3 months is a long time, it's like I missed her before she even went. I leave her house at 6 saying I want to watch the football match and that I'll be back. I don't come back. My plan was to leave her (again, I know I'm a dick). It's like the thought of a long distance relationship for 3 months scared me. She rings me and rings me, I don't answer and she then has to take the bus to the airport herself without knowing what I was doing.

I then wake up and realise this is not how I should behave and decide to meet her at the airport slightly later. Instead of ringing her up I thought I'd surprise her and say I lost track of time because of the football match. Just a lame excuse. I thought she'd be upset but just happy and relieved that nothing was truly wrong. Whilst on the train she tells me that her friends threw out my suitcase! £500 worth of stuff! They done it for revenge and protecting my girlfriend. My girlfriend did not have anything to do with this. I know her, and honestly, she is too shy and would be too scared to do something like this. It also makes more sense that her friends done it, because they didn't want someone hurting her, as she is so vulnerable. She was super pissed off at them and had loads of arguments over the phone at the airport when I got there.

Long story short, she wants to pay me back, and I refuse saying she needs to get money off her friends since they were the ones who done it. She says no and we have arguments after arguments. I refused money from my girlfriend, then said no she must pay (out of anger). She then says ok to paying, but I refuse to speak to her until she does (don't forget I'm super pissed off). I then give up on the whole situation because I can't lose my girlfriend because of other people. If I fuck up, then so be it. But I can't let her friends make me dump her. I'd only regret it later in life. It's been 2 months since that time, and basically, her friends are sorry (wow big deal!) and no one will pay me.

Now and then, when I think of this, and how much I've been fucked over, I started getting really pissed off again. I hate her friends! I know I fucked up but it still shouldn't have come to this! For all they know, I simply was clumsy and forgot the time! I mean... what if something actually bad happened where I got mugged or run over? They would have still thrown my stuff out! Anyways... like I said, what do I do? What is the right thing to do? I want to keep my girlfriend, I'm not angry at her. I hate her friends. Everything is ok now. It's all in the past, but I just can't let it go! Now and then I get this anger, it's not fair what they did, why should I pay for it! My girlfriend just now asked me "How is work?" and I just suddenly felt like replying "Well thanks to you not having any courage to step up to your friends, it's shit because everything I work for, I need to spend on replacements from things I lost, rather than saving up for it". She can't exactly start arguments with people she has to live with for the next year so I do understand why she's acting like this. She was crying and crying, and pleading with me not to leave her when this happened. But like I said before it's over, but what shall I do? The thought of seeing her fucking friends again pisses me off. Advice will be appreciated.

Alright first of all, yes you ignoring your gf was very immature and selfish! but her friends had no right to do what they did, and your gf should say something to them! I also have a hard time believing your gf had nothing to do with this and hence she feels guilty and wants to give you money....If her friends did it she would confront them, any one would!

My guess is she got emotional, she was mad, her friends might have done it but perhaps she took part in it as well? If so these are not very good friends.

I would ask her to tell you the truth, tell her what you told us, tell her the although you regret ignoring her what happend was not ok and she needs to either talk to her friends, or tell you the truth (was she involved?).

Turn the table around....imagine if your friends did this to your gf, would you sit back and let it happen? I am guessing no? this is what makes thing seem fishy!

p.s her not saying anything to her friends shows that she values their friendship more than your relationship and that is something I would express to her. No need to get emotional or mad, just be calm and state you case.

I completely agree with what you're saying, but look at it from her way. She's at uni in another country, living with 4 girls. Breaking up with 2 of them she's known for 2 years wouldn't be ideal, but yes, maybe she values her friends more? I cannot be with a girl who does that, but it's MY fault this happened. It's such a dilemma. But I don't believe she done it with her friends, she wasn't even there when it happened. I also heard her arguing with her friends about how wrong it was.

I think I'd prefer it if it was her doing, rather than not sticking up for me. But like I said, these are her housemates. She's rich, I get the impression she wanted to pay to get the problem over, rather than the guilt.

She doesn't have to break her friendship, she just has to confront her friends and let them know that what they did was not ok, and that they should pay for your stuff, in fact if you wanted to you could go to the police and press charges, im sure you don't want to do that but hey....these girls obviously don't have a whole lot of respect for you or your things so fuck um!

Its not a mater of how long they have been friends, its matter of wrong and right, and if your gf had nothing to do with your stuff being thrown out then she should have no problem talking to her friends, and if she doesn't then you should! why do you care? they showed zero respect for you or your relationship when they did this so why do you care about them? I would be more worried about the $500 worth of stuff I just lost!

Your relationship has nothing to do with her friends, its non of their business and although they might say they were protecting her, its non of their business. You relationship issues are between you and your gf, not you, your gf, and her friends...this is something you should also make clear to your gf! no talking about your problems with her friends because obviously they are not mature enough to handle them self's.

I still don't believe your gf had nothing to do with the bag being thrown out, but regardless she should not have shared your relationship issues, and she should have stopped them from ruining your belongings.

Claim it yourself from her friends.
If they are cool enough to do that crap they are old enough to pay for it.
If not, file a report at the police for breaking/stealing your stuff.
Push it as far as you have to.
(if they don't back off destroy 1000 $ of their stuff)

Grab a laptop of one of her friends and throw it off a building... blame it on the birds.