So I recently got back with my "girlfriend" we aren't really official but we are somewhat that. I messed up recently because I cheated and everything, and lost her trust. It was really hard to get her back and it took some loss of control in the relationship inorder for that to happen. 

So my question is, how do I gain trust back and make her officially my girlfriend but at the same time get some control back in the relationship?

Oh I don't want to wait too long because I feel like the more I wait to make this official the less likely it's becoming possible.

i think you are in danger of LJBF zone. Just be patient and dont appear needy. Be dominant AGAIN and dont bring her to the pedestal You are still the prize so act one! Use story telling to embedd trust in her mind while saying that you are still preselected and other girls still want you and you have other options in case she dumps you. Keep in mind that you are the MAN and she is lucky to have YOU!

goodluck man

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Really dude... Would you ever trust again a girl that has cheated on you? If yes, then you must be a fool. There's no way she's gonna ever trust you like before after this. Don't even bother. If you don't do anything particularly bad for a while she might get some trust back, but all of them? No way...

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Thank You bro.
But the thing is i get the feelin I'm approaching Friends with benefit instead of LJBF because we are very sexual. I don't want to be that with this girl and I kind of screwed the comfort part of the relationship, that's what I want to gain back.

Oh she knows from school and everything that many girls are after me, that's what kind of messes me up cause she just can't trust me with all of them ( and from my mess ups I can't blame her)


Instinct- I understand. So you suggest I try to make it official after I gain her trust back? Also is it okay to lose some "pride" to gain some trust, like being sweeter than usual and stuff?

why do you want to be with her if your gona cheat on her?

no she will never be the same and is probably gona use you till she finds someone new

How would you define the "pride" you're talking about? You've cheated. A man takes responsibility for his actions. You don't want to stand under her balcony singing a song about how much you screwed up or be her puppy for the next 2 weeks and hope she will forget it. Instead why don't you sit down with her, and talk this over? Tell her the damn truth, that you made a mistake, and altough you're sorry you will take the responsibility. I hope at least you had the guts to tell her that you cheated. If she's so important to you that's something she'd deserve... But really I don't get this too. Why did you cheat, in the first place? Perhaps she would also be interested in the reason behind this too...

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You guys are getting the wrong message. I did talk to her. I apologized several times before she accepted me back. We sat and talked and I made no excuses for my mistake. We all make mistakes and that was mine, but I'm willing to change for the better.

It's because I don't really understand your problem. What more could we say? Just try not fucking it up again, that's really all you can do about this.

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