Hey guys its been a while! Any way my gf and I have been together for about 3 1/2 years, 2 of which we have lived together, relationship has been great for the most part but like most guys my eye wonder from time to time! my gf just finished college and was accepted into a program she really wants to take about 2 hours away...of course I support what she is doing but I must say as it gets closer and closer to the date of her moving out I get more and more nervous! not nervous necessarily about her cheating but rather nervous about us growing apart. I recently started a business which I am busy with, she will be busy with school and social events, also we are both at ages (Im 25 and she is 22) were its kind of "make or break" when it comes to a relationship....we have talked of marriage and are both on the same page (we both agree that we want to marry each other) but things seem different as the date comes closer and closer....could be all in my head but am I wrong to worry? Any one eles have experience with this kind of thing? I really love this girl a lot! and I see my self married to her but I just have this weird feeling that we might grow apart or something? I cant really explain how I feel lol should I be worried?

another thing I want to add is that for the first time in a long time!!!! I had a "pua moment" with a waitress, nothing more then some lustful thoughts and a smile, she was a beautiful beautiful girl! and it was the first time I had considered running game on her in a long long time! I then snapped my self out of it and ignored her lol


I feel kind of mixed right now, on one hand I'm afraid we will grow apart, on the other hand I think I'm afraid of what I might do, and perhaps afraid of what my gf might be doing when i am not around.....its an odd feeling because I'm not the jealous type at all! and I never felt like I could cheat or like she would ever cheat....I think my head is playing games on me lol

Your concerns are pretty normal considering the fact that after a long time of living together this will stop soon. On the one hand you cannot blame your GF for chosing what she really wants to do: the program 2 hours away.
My "feeling" after reading both of your posts is that you are not completely ready to settle down with that 1 girl and get married. It is NOT the fact that she is moving away. The underlying fact seems to be that you are just not sure. Yes, you are sure about the girl, but you aren't sure about settling down. Moreover, you are thinking in terms of cheating. A couple that is about to marry doesn't think in that terms.
Make up your mind: what do you want?

yeah I would never hold her back! she has worked hard to get this and I support her 100%! I know I am afraid of commitment for sure! and perhaps afraid of what would happen if I broke things off with her....like would I regret it which I probably would.

See I have always had a problem with commitment! I have never been able to stick with one girl for to long because I just loose interest and I have eyes that like to wonder lol my current gf is the only girl who has made me feel like staying in the relationship was worth while, and the only girl I can truly say I love or have ever loved. We talk of marriage but I know I am not ready just yet...I take marriage serious and don't want to end up in divorce! plus we are both still young and there is no rush.

I think most pua's are afraid of commitment because we know what we are giving up. Most guys have low self esteem and latch onto the first good or decent looking women they can find, give her a ring, and pop out a couple babies because they feel like they need to "lock" the girl down in case they don't find anyone "better". As pua's we have picked up many women! we have slept with hb 9's and 10's, we know what we can have and what we are capable of and so its hard to give that up that life style knowing that "if I get married there is no more pua"...marriage is like the end of it all lol scary!

On the other hand I have a wonderful gf! she beautiful, very smart, and she really loves me! I mean she really cares and has my best interest in mind and that's a rare quality to find in women!

I think the moving apart is bringing to the surface the doubts you already have. Like others said you clearly don't sound ready to get married or why wouldn't you just get engaged now? So the mixed feelings are uncomfortable.

I guess you could think of the time apart as a test. If you pass the test and end up together, the relationship will be stronger because it wasn't forced. If just being apart a while leads to it ending at this stage, you have to wonder how strong it would have been if you did get married.

Being apart from someone you love has a hell of a lot of drags, but believe me, the time you do spend together is amazing! You will probably have jealousy issues for a little while, but just fight through them and you will get into a routine of not even thinking about that kind of thing. Just don't get needy because arguments over distance can do more damage since you can't make up face to face as easily, though of course you are only two hours apart.