I got out of this oneitis a month ago. I had to totally erase the girls phone so that I pushed myself to game some new ones, and I did. Ever since ( a little under a month) I have fucked three new girls, kissed 10 or so and my phone blows up all day with at least three different girls. It's cool, but there is this one who really kinda has lots of my attention. And I don't want to mention the word onetis just yet, but it definitely starting to smell like it.

She lives 3 hours away by plane. We text for hours at the time.
I picked her at the club by talking to her girlfriend first, when she started showing interest, I isolated her and got her number. She's pretty hot. On my tight scale she is a solid 7. I ran game on her and she wanted me to fuck her b4 she left but I was fucking this other chic the nights she was here so I could not make time.
Her last night in town she texted me 'till 6:30 in the morning. Then she gave up at like 7 am and texted me a picture of her with "your loss" message on it.

But only then we started texting at deeper levels and now we can text for like 4 or 5 hours straight. Because she is hot and I do not want to tell her that (a neg on its own) I told her the reason I came to her that night was bcuz I wanted to know who the little girl with all the questions was. (when I was dhv to her girlfriend at the club, she kept interrupting with questions).

Here is the text I have questions about
her-blah blah blah... and don't worry, I still have plenty of questions
me-lol... U have such a curious little colorful mind, I'm going to bed b4 u start any trouble
her-heeee just trying to figure out if I'm interested and if you are worth my time bc I really don't want to be interested...

For the time being she is being freezed out. But should I reply with " So don't be then. I'll make it easy for you. I am not a good catch."

Or ignore that altogether, or any other suggestions?

[quote="gelicious"]bc I really don't want to be interested...[/quote]

This is a tricky one. You could go cocky funny and say something like...

'Don't try and fight it babe.'
or
'You know you can't help it.'

I wouldn't DLV yourself by saying 'I'm not a good catch', it sounds strange but I'm not sure. Would be good to hear what the other guys say.

"don't want to be interested? are you scared that my sexiness will overwhelm you?"

"worth your time? sorry angelina jolie, probably not then!"

Would NOT do the "Im not that good of a catch"

She is trying to have my qualify myself to her. She tells me that she is not interested so that I start listing a bunch of thing why she should be interested, in other words why I am a good catch.
That's where I thought I should be like "well don't be interested then, I am not good for you (no good catch)"

But you guys are right, cocky funny is the best way to go.
Thanks all

Well how do you know I'm interested in you? Like I said, you sound like trouble.

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If you're still doing the early game on her, cocky funny is the way to go.

But if you're texting 5 hours at a crack, to me that's a lot of time and energy. Are you making her work for your attention?

Let the nature of her mood and what she's saying drive your answers. If she's being playful and funny, do it back. If she gets serious, don't be afraid to be serious. I'm not saying qualify, but for instance, to skip qualifying yourself to her and still be serious you could say "Why do you want to fight it?"

I wouldn't go this route if you're trying to game her for sex. I would go this route if the time was right and you wanted mroe than one night.

When she was in town (last week) I had her all tangled up. I had sooo many girls calling me and texting me I just did not know how to handle it so she ended up getting left out. She had all this guys hitting on her and she did nothing but text me all the time she was at the club. Going like "are you coming" "where are you" "i'm on my way home" "I'm home now" and then a final "your loss" with a nice picture of her attached. Then she kept texting me when she went back home and like I said she keeps asking sooo many questions. Like "why did you come to me at the club" "why did you wanted to be all close to me" "blah blah blah", and sooo many more questions. It's like she is playing the whole thing in her mind like a movie.
The thing is she finally caught my attention, well now she has me texting with her for 4 or 5 hours at the time. Now she draws back a little. Now she wants me to chase her. I don't want to let her turn this around, chasing a girl is always a loss. It's funny, you are gaming girls and winning, then one comes, wins your attention, completely fucks up your game and you are back at one all of a sudden. It's bull shit.

you beta back slided there. Just become more aloof, and her interest will sky rocket again. Just fuck her already tho.

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she's just teasing you cause you are teasing her, you don't even have to respond to that kind of shit or aknowledge she said that

really though gaming a girl you can not meet is sort of a big waste of time, keep in contact and all, but why you would put your main focus on some girl that is 3 hours away from you by plan makes little to no sense

really if you wanted something to say to call her on her shit it would just have a meetup involved

''I see, guess you're screwed then, we can hangout xtime, as long as something doesn't come up''

really though making a big texting buddy is not really helping you all too much, the more rapport you make with this girl without sleeping with her will more likely lead you to more rapport, rather then to sex, better to just get enough rapport so she is comfortable meeting you, and when she is, create the logistics

I would disagree slightly with last poster. It's all about what you want.

I gamed a girl online, eventually decided I didn't want to game her for one night, I wanted a lot of nights. We emailed, talked, chatted online, like you, sometimes for a long time at a crack. But I was careful ALWAYS to be the one who "had to get going." Give her some, but not everything she wants. Eventually SHE wanted to escalate to meeting. I played slightly hard to get, but gave in when she started suggesting times and places where it would be dark and we'd be alone. Meeting 1 we kissed some. Meeting 2 we fucked.

The nice part about texts or online, you have a record of your game. You can always go back and see where you fucked up. And you can correct it. You're back in the game. Just be careful and do what you know works. It's all about learning to improve man. You have a new opportunity. Just use it and learn from it.

Just stop responding for a while see what happens

I'm not sure what I came up with but I think it was something along the lines of just ignoring that comment altogether. The fact that I was dreading her saying that was leading to no good place anyway.

I am definitely drawing back and regrouping. I always find this to be the best thing to do when in doubt. Every time I see a girl drawing back some I draw back double that amount. And of course I go to school on myself, replay the whole thing, spot my mistakes and go back and try to fix them. Every time I loose I come around and have this amazing rushes of a few new girls. It's cool.

Admittedly, when I start getting successful, I also start getting sloppy, and believe it or not, for some reason, I can't get away from re-living onitis experiences. No matter how aware I am of them. And how cocky I get about my game, I still fuck it up big sometimes. Like serious afc shit. I'm not sure yet what my onitis percentage is. Maybe 20%?

What I am doing is definitely drawing back from this girl a lot. In this case I'd prefer my lack of action, than coming up with some afc behavior. Then at least I'll save face and leave room open for the future.