Hey folks..
Need someone to tell me the obvious here..

I started dating this girl (used the FB method of poking from this forum)..

I dated her for 7 weeks, going out once in a week, but some heavy investment in telephone and IM the whole time.. didn't even FC her, because she's 18, and her mind is still filled with taboos of sex.. as a plus I didn't have much opportunity staying alone with her, so I could escalate..

Some 2 weeks from now she's started getting colder with me, sometimes not answering my txt msgs, neither talking to much.. and when with me, barely kissing me.. I can clearly notice the difference, even tough when I say something like "you are acting cold with me" she says she's not..

I like her, and I'd like to get her attracted again.. but I'm acting needy and kicking myself for doing it..

I was thinking about having a discussion about it with her, but given that we are not in a committed relationship, I think it'd be needy to "talk about us" and ask if she's not interested anymore..

any tips?

thaanks in advance

Escalate kino. If you haven't slept with a woman after 7-9 hours of time together, she will begin to backwards rationalize it. "Since I didn't sleep with him, I must not be attracted to him." She's probably just bored. By amping up the sexual intensity, you'll get her to invest more in the interaction.

Stop with the "you're cold" talks. Remember that you're the prize and to assert your frame over the situation. Actions speak louder than words so get physical.

Exactly, make her sit up and notice you!

Don't wait for her to kiss you, do some kino yourself and definately escalate.
Maybe not all the way to sex but atleast get her interested.

And dude my advice would be this:
Be happy, act cool, act relaxed.

She's gunna be wayyyy more attracted to a guy having a great time, than a guy who's depressed and worried about his girlfriend.

Remind her why she started going out with you in the first place.

And no AFC rubbish! Don't buy her flowers or take her out to dinner. She doesn't deserve it.

Also, you may want to try freezing her out a little if you're always communicating.

just stop being needy, you have identified the problem, also 18 year olds are easy, they are flaky and inexperienced, just get her alone and 60% of the work is done for you, watch a movie with her at your place, tell her to come close, cuddle up with her, start kissing her during the movie, get a makeout, feel her up, start taking off your clothes, when you are down to your boxers, start taking off her clothes, untill she is down to her panties, keep going back to foreplay heating her up as you take clothes off, take your time, you get naked first (or you can just put her hand on your dick when your hard she can see it through the boxers anyways)

the problems you may experience are,
-she says no when you tell her to come closer
fix: say ok, and wait, if she never comes over just watch the movie and don't worry about it, if she asks why say to cuddle

-she freaks a bit when you start taking off clothes and asks what you're doing
fix: just tell her you're just getting comfortable, then ignore her keep your calm and go back to kissing

-she freaks a bit when her clothes start to come off
fix: back off a bit, try again later, if she won't take them off, just leave them on and take off your boxer/hand on dick

you can also encourage her to take off her clothes (don't tell her to take off her clothes or try to convince her, just compliment her on the body part you want revealed)

as for your neediness, just fill your life with other things besides her, take your focus off of her, normally I would say just don't date girls until you have already had sex with them

also don't run a relationship from behind a phone, nothing can happen that way, start spending time with her in person, if you can't then it is time to get a new girlfriend that isn't weird

I was very recently, up until about three hours ago actually, in some sort of bizarre messed up "nearly relationship" with this girl.

Basically, she kept going back and forth between me and her boyfriend. This kind of screwed with me and I started really liking her which I never planned to and eventually I descended into an awful vortex of neediness. I felt absolutely disgusted with myself and the way I was behaving but at the same time stress with work and this new emotional stress kind of crumbled my usual resolve.

She became waaaay too important to my happiness and she was just fucking with me. The other day she asked me if I wanted to try and be with her, despite all the logic in my head screaming "NO!" I said yes like a wuss. Well tonight she saw her ex/bf to sort out money he owed her and she told me she wanted to go back to him.

I finally grew a pair and told her to just go and fuck herself and stop talking to me.

There is a lesson in that story somewhere... My original point was to do with gaming other women, not letting her become too important because it leads to neediness. Also, stop overthinking things because it will drive you completely nuts. I feel completely free and happy since telling her where to go.