So I've been with my girlfriend officially for nearly 4 months. Though, to give you some back-ground, we're both at University together however we live far apart when not in term time. We started sleeping together at the end of the last academic year. Broke it off over summer, when we got back to university after some issues we started seeing eachother again and then in October became officially boyfriend and girlfriend.

She has given me absolutely no reason not to trust her, other than the fact she gets black-out drunk regularly but when that happens I'm bombarded with unaswered texts, phone calls and facebook messages. So why do I have this doubt at the back of my mind?

If anything she has every reason in the world not to trust me. I first met her the night I broke up with my ex and was drunkenly declaring my intention to fuck anything that night. We both slept with someone over summer when we obviously weren't together but still kept in touch. She slept with a friend of hers, twice, both times when drunk. I started sleeping with a girl who is now at university with us. infact, first few weeks of term I was sleeping with the girl from Summer and getting with my now girlfriend too. They both knew about eachother. After ending things with this girl to be with my girlfriend she later told me that she loved me and basically went fully crazy. (Don't put your dick in crazy boys). I still have to see this crazy girl socially. I have a girl I'm flirting with outside of the relationship, nothing more. But I know I could probably sleep with her if my girlfriend and I break up. Despite all this I have absolutely no desire to cheat on my girlfriend. I love her.

So, why do I have this niggling doubt about her faithfulness? Why don't I trust her or why am I expecting something bad to come out of the wood-work? I'm not jealous, I don't let her know all these things. I know that if something was to happen I'd have no trouble finding a new girl. But I'm finding it hard to trust.

How can I fix this? Is it an inner-game issue? Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks, Tryst.

Hey!
It's completely normal, especially when you really care about someone. We are all jealous the important thing is how you let that feeling affect you and affect your relationship with your girlfriend. If you say she hasn't given you any reason to not trust her the trust her. Don't act like a psychopath sending her text messages, or calling her ... etc or she MIGHT get tired of that; just accept that she's not living close to you anymore and talk to her as much as you can and DO NOT get in a fight while talking to her on the phone remember you are not there to comfort her.

Forget about the PUA stuff man, you already have a girlfriend just enjoy.

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I think the reason u have these thoughts is because she gets 'black-out drunk regularly'. She doesn't have control of herself when she's like this, and could be taken advantage of... even raped.

I'll be honest, that's completely inappropriate behavior in my book. My gf does not get black-out drunk, SPECIALLY if I'm not there with her.

Get that shit under control.

Yeah I do worry about her being raped. But I know what she's like drunk (when she its normally both of us in a complete state) I'm sure she wouldn't cheat.

I agree that some of my doubt comes from her drinking though, definitely. I just don't see how I can 'get that under control' I'm the boss in the relationship, no doubt, but I can't nag her and try and change her personality without either;

a) coming across as a controlling prick.
or
b) sounding needy, insecure and ultimately losing my frame.