Whenever I have sex with random girls, I can last pretty long and satisfy them... but for some reason, with my new girlfriend, I feel like I need to impress her which makes me either

1)Last so long that I cannot cum and she gets raw
2)Ejaculate too early
3)Cannot get hard

I feel like my nervousness is getting in the way, because I actually have feelings for this girl. Ive been working on Kegels and jacking off slowly to last longer, but those things can only help to a certain point. Any advice?

Yeh..your not comfortable with her yet. See her less often let the relationship build naturally.

Should I assume that you're thinking about this during sex also? If so, then stop it. When you're having sex, you should not think about anything at all. Just enjoy the moment, feel her body, and fuck her hard. Whenever a thought like this appears, you like grab her boobs and start licking it or do whatever is necessary to get you out of your head. Since I never had this particular problem I'm really sorry that I can't help if this is not the case.

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Yeah I think it could be that I'm thinking about it too much. When I'm drunk its no problem. . .

I have somewhat the same issue... I can last until she asks me to stop, and at that point, it's no fun. If I think about ejaculating, I can never get it off and worse I sometime get huge leg muscle pain that prevent me from walking for like a day.

What I do is kinda like what Fisher is saying, whenever I know she's got off a couple times, I just stop thinking and let it flow.

This might sound wrong, but if i have this problem when i am sleeping with a girl that i ACTUALLY care about, i have to get in the mind frame that she is just another meaningless fuck, and that the sex between us is for my pleasure and not hers.

After doing this just one or two times, i ended up relaxing, stressing less about what she would think, and enjoying the moment over and over

i hope that somehow makes sense

i smell what you're feeling. the only problem with that is that i dont want to supress something that feels awesome, because im tired of casual sex, and if i put myself in that mentality i feel like everytime i have sex with her its just gonna be meaningless and i will get tired of her, like every other girl that I have had sex with. Sounds pussy ^ but i hope you can feel me on that one.

I watched "There is Something About Mary." That movie is genius.. i must jack off before i see her.

I know exactly how you feel. When I have sex with my GF, it's not only me who thinks to much during... but she does it too! We are both pretty horrible in that regard.

I try to let go, but she keeps interrupting me somehow. For example, when I want to change into another position, I get out of the current position and she asks "What are you doing?" - and because she says that and is not really working with me, but instead questioning it, she's kinda killing the moment.

That, and she's pretty bad at sucking my dick. I don't feel anything. She's just licking it. Or could it be that my penis isn't as sensitive as others?

I just wonder how I could talk about this with her without her being upset or freaking out.

maybe when she asks "what are you doing?" you can reply with something along the lines of "getting more comfortable." just brush it off, if you pretend you arn't thinking about it most likely she won't as much.

as for the bad dick sucking or licking, you can direct her through it. tell her how it should be done. maybe she is just not experienced and doesn't really know how to suck proper dick.

youre not alone. most girls dont know how to give good head. tell her how you like it and how she should do it

when she asks "what are you doing?"

use it as an excuse to talk excessively dirty to her!

say "getting ready to ride your pussy and fuck you like a bucking bronco! you ready, bitch? cuz here it comes!!!"

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