ok, so this forum helped me a year ago with my gaming.
now, i need help with my relationship.

my girldfriend is dipressed because of something i dont know, or with no reason.
she keep telling me that it has nothing to do with me and she dont want to break up.
she has a birthday coming up, she begged me not to buy her a gift.

what should i do? plz, any help will be higly appriciated.

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look at that.. we have a virgin on the forum..
oh well

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If it's the real deal (the depression I mean) help her seek professional aid. Depressions can't be fixed by the interwebz nor by you.

Define, depression?
She is crying all day?
she's being cold towards you?

Except for that, you are in a relationship, and you should ask her whats on her mind. Why she is feeling depressed, it has nothing to do with you, but the whole situation isn't fun for you. So ask her, talk about your/her problem together, you might be able to help her.

Here is what I've learned from experience. When you're in a relationship and a girl starts acting like or saying she is depressed, and she says it's not about you... It is almost always about you.

She isn't depressed, but she is feeling confused and upset, because she doesn't feel for you the way she used to and she doesn't understand why. You're probably a great guy who treats her better than anyone else ever has and she has every reason to want to be with you, but for some reason she isn't feeling the attraction anymore.

In these cases, the girl is going to rationalize her distant behavior as her being depressed, because she doesn't want to break up with you and she is hopeful that whatever feeling she is missing will return, and she doesn't want you to worry in the meantime. However, what this does is make you insecure and start worrying. You start giving her a lot more attention and going out of your way to do things to please her and to try to pull her back in close to you to close that distance you are feeling. You become needy and end up pushing her even further away.

Soon, she starts disqualifying herself by saying things like "I'm not a good girlfriend." "I can't make you happy." "You deserve better than me." etc.
Naturally, you respond by telling her she is a great girlfriend and that she makes you super happy, and that she is everything you deserve and want. Pushing her further away.

After a few months of her feeling like this and the attraction not returning because of you pushing her further away by acting needy and trying to please her, she realizes that the attraction isn't going to come back. Then comes the words, "we need to talk."

So, what can you do about this? For starters, start acting like a man again instead of her puppy dog. Think back to when you first met her and who you were back then. How did you act then? What were your interests then? How often did you go out with your friends then? Was she chasing you or were you chasing her?
The person you were and the things you did back then were what she was attracted to, and the person you became is who she lost attraction for. Revert back to the person you were when you met her.

I agree with sidnee6...if she wantd to be with u, then she would of lighted like a bulb whenever she saw you. Consider breaking up with her, then the truth will come out!

No! You don't break up with her! Not if you still want to be with her.

The reason why girls stop feeling attraction for a man, is because the man stops being a man. He stops being an alpha male. He stops being masculine. He stops being the dominant person in the relationship.

If you can go back to being a strong masculine alpha male, then you have a chance to turn things around and make her feel attraction for you.

If you can't (and this is far more likely) then she will break up with you. That's OK. Let her break up with you. But, how you handle it is crucial. If you stay calm and in control of your emotions, and act like you are unaffected by her breaking up with you, then you can confidently look her in the eye and tell her "Listen, I obviously care about you a lot, but you have to do what your heart tells you to do. If I'm not the guy for you, then I'm not the guy for you. Sure, it sucks, but I'll be OK."

And DO NOT agree to be friends with her.

Read the thread "Easiest Way To Save A Dying Relationship." I have posted a lot about this subject in that thread.

Also, read "Train Your Girlfriend" by Matt Huston.