Right guys I need your help.

I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years, for the past month we have been on a break. It was entirely my choice however.

The main reason I have my doubts about her is I wasn't sure whether I still fancied her or not. I began not having sex with her for weeks on end and I have kissed about 5 girls in the time we have been together. 2 of them could have led to a lay but I backed out due to guilt.

This girl is honestly the coolest girl you could meet,such a nice person and does everything to try and make me happy. She really really loves me. If I stay with her I can expect marrage,kids the whole lot but in terms of sex I always find myself pestering other girls.

My main concern is does this often happen in realationships over time? I've only had one other major one in my life, but she left me.

She began to put on a bit of weight around a year ago, not loads but enough for me to notice.

We are meeting next wednesday to discuss our future.

I don't want to mess her around but I would struggle without her but the attraction isn't the same.

Honesty, Honesty and Honesty is the key!

Tell her how you feel! Tell her that she need to take care of herself, she could exercise to keep in shape and have energy. Personnally when i'm in shape and exercising I'm horny...

Be direct on the facts. If you don't have sexual needs for your gf it's because there's problem in the relationship, both ways.

The fact that you kissed 5 others girls isn't really nice to her but I'd say at least you didn't fool around.

I would suggest you to be gentle when speaking to her but to say what you have to say and let her say how she feels as well.