Sigh...this guy is seriously a lost cause.... he is really NOT getting it.

I told you NOT to verbalise the relationship AND your feelings under ANY circumstances, REGARDLESS of what she SAYS or HOW she TESTS you and what do you do? exactly that....*FACE PALM*

If your not going to LISTEN to my advice, DONT ask for any, please...

Probably best for you to get burned and learn your lesson the hard way, cause you ain't going nowhere fast like this....

Now onto the analysis of your amazing 'alpha' abilities...
Good....
NOT GOOD!!

First test and you fucked up....verbalizing your feelings of potential loss indirectly (which she knew)...neediness!
Oh yeah sure...you two are truly meant to be...give me a fucking break!! more neediness!
NOT GOOD!!

Second test and you also blew it....you should of teased her with "cheat on you? maybe, depends how hot she was or how good she was in bed"...again you lost the challenge BIG TIME by declaring your "undying love" for her (she knows she STILL has you around her thumb)....I would also take these words she says VERY lightly...she has OBVIOUSLY thought about it....Sorry to break it to you, man, this girl is NOT your soulmate....get the fuck out of neverland!!!

*MAJOR FACE PALM*

FUCKING TERRIBLE!!
I CANNOT BELIEVE YOUR UTTER IGNORANCE HERE...

THREE tests in this. Let's analyse them all shall we? for laughter's sake....

First test "oh when you were talking about the exchange haha I knew what you were doing"...here she was TESTING you to see how you would react to her KNOWING about you nexting her...again you failed and should have played it cool/teased her about it with something like "Oh babe, you know how busy I get when I'm trying to rule the world...it's hard not too be gone so long when you're trying to climb everest, whilst parachuting from outer space".

Second and BIGGEST test that you REALLY should have passed (seriously), but failed miserably "what's the point in even having a boyfriend if we don't talk much, it's not the type of relationship I want to be in"...to which you replied "i realized I had said too many things and gotten a head of myself, that we wern't on the same page and that I have come back a bit" (pathetic- almost apologising AND approval-seeking)....

BIG FUCKING DEAL... you didn't CHEAT on her, like she was THINKING about and believe me, she WAS.

You didn't need to fucking EXPLAIN yourself...you should just have said something like "Sorry, babe...but Iv'e been busy with chatting up all my other girlfriends as well" (jokingly)- this A. Will make her laugh and B. secretly make her wonder/get jealous and still see you as a challenge and where SHE still stands in the relationship, but most of all, you would have PASSED that test.

You should have KEPT your cool and not A. verbalise your feelings (why you were distancing) and B. Apologising/seeking her approval by saying "i realized I had said too many things and gotten a head of myself, that we wern't on the same page and that I have come back a bit"

TUT TUT TUT....

Third test "you are good at wording things", to which you ALSO failed by re-iterating WHY you were distancing ("I realize I say a lot of things, and if i say them all i want to give you the opportunity to be able to say them yourself and be affectionate, and I wasn't doing that")....in other words, you seriously NEED her affection (which she now knows) and you're sorry for making it so blatantly obvious that your NOT really a challenge to her...again trying to APOLOGISE and indirectly BEG for her forgiveness which she knew by replying "ahh I knew thats why you were distancing yourself" (she seems WAY smarter than you),to which you CONFIRMED by replying "haha you knew why i was distancing?"....in other words, you were FAKING being a challenge to WIN her affection, which she ALSO now knows. Her final reply "I out playedd youu"- means you FAILED ALL of her tests and this is her way of verbalising it- she knows you are STILL a fucking NEEDY pussy. Sorry, man... it is the harsh truth!
Really?? that's ALL she can think about?? and not you????? WOW...this girl seriously is SERIOUSLY wet for you man!!! This is another OBVIOUS sign she is losing interest as normally girls who are REALLY into you (and trust me, this one isn't) will say "but I'm also thinking about you too".
No she wasn't kidding....she REALLY does think she is more of "the man in this relationship"....because she is NOT explaining herself to you why she REALLY is a CHALLENGE in this relationship (without verbalising it like you), which she CLEARLY is by bringing up "cheating on you" that you simply are NOT getting...
Aww how cute..."I love you and miss you"....give me a fucking break...more neediness, ESPECIALLY after almost apologising to her several times beforehand. SHE DID NOT DESERVE to be told this after what SHE said to you about the "cheating"...Seriously, dude, MAN THE FUCK UP...you are still being an apologetic, pathetic, whiny, needy bitch...You should have AT LEAST called her out on her "thinking about cheating" by saying something like "I don't think I can trust you in this relationship anymore, when you are bringing up cheating already" (that's what I would have said anyway) and throw her "shit tests" right back at her. She also doesn't believe in too much affection- MAJOR bullshit "chickspeak" right there...well done for falling for it.
*FACE PALM*

Now you are showing her you are JEALOUS that other guys are "hitting on her" after being a pathetic, needy, whiny, approval-seeking pussy....WOW, no wonder "she thinks she's the man of this relationship"...you aren't exactly showing yourself to be Arnold Schwarzenneger with her.
YOU WILL BE FINE!!! JUST MAN THE FUCK UP AND NEXT HER!! YOU SERIOUSLY NEED TO!!
This is the ONLY effective thing you have thought about so far and POWERFUL at that....Well done!!
SHE is CLEARLY a FUCKING LIAR!!

I'll tell you what to do- HARD NEXT HER!!! Tell her you don't think you can "trust her anymore in a long distance relationship", cut off ALL contact with her UNTIL you decide to meet up (however long that is). Then tell her "you decided to give her another chance" when you do meet up and FUCK HER FUCKING BRAIN INTO YOUR BRAIN - make it angry, hate-filled fucking, FORCE HER TO SUCK YOUR DICK whilst verbalising "you think you could cheat on me and get away with it, bitch?? huh???", "SUCK THIS FUCKING DICK LIKE YOUR LIFE DEPENDED ON IT!! OK!!??". Then you WILL be the MAN of the relationship.

This girl is CLEARLY much smarter than you man in dealing with relationships and being a CHALLENGE (if she is as hot as you say, she will have had plenty of practise), so you REALLY NEED to WISEN AND SMARTEN UP if you're gonna have a chance with her.

I know I have been very harsh here, but trust me, you NEED it. I am trying to save your ass from getting kicked to the curb by this girl you so CLEARLY want to be with forever.

Hopefully, now you WILL "come to your senses" and LEARN to adjust your behaviours/responses to her "tests " (which she is clearly throwing at you like a slinger) more effectively to make her "cream her panties" over you.

Good luck...you're REALLY gonna NEED it now!!

funniest thing in this story is that girl really likes you...

She likes you that much, that she is actually begging you to man up so she can become attracted to you again..

But you just dont wanna listen anybody and doing same shit over and over again... fascinating

Im just going to leave this here for our precious OP
http://www.francoseduction.com/neediness-management-2

I think if you follow the advice posted through all this thread, you can make it.

But no matter what happens, you should work on yourself more.

This is gold! If he nexted her now she would most likely be ALL OVER him when he gets back. Instead he is going to keep trying to feed his giant black hole of need and lose her for good.

Just lock this thread already, this is just a farce now

Hey,

So I needed some time to write this.

I re-read all your shit and I thought about it a lot and this girl is playing me so hard. She knows she has me.

I knew that she was hiding something from me. Asking me questions in the last few days like have you ever thought about hooking up with girls, and saying she realized she easily could of. You guys know it all ive told you everything.
Anyways, I woke up and she messaged me a few voice notes. At the beginning she was like, hey how are you, bla bla about my day. Then she was like, well I have been doing a lot of thinking and I realize lately I have been a bitch, and you know some days I know I “really want to be with Rob, and want to be in a relationship for a while, and then other days, well im not going to say it because it will just contradict what I just said”, and she continued about some stuff. I replied on text saying, “Thanks for the voice notes, it sounds like you have been doing a lot of thinking. You should tell me a bit more about it, especially the “some days I want to be in a relationship, and other days im not sure”, and she was like, no no that’s not what I meant, never mind. I ignored her, then told her to go on SPAM 30 minutes later.

So I knew that something was coming, I could just tell, she wasn't being straight up with me and asking questions that she has never asked me before.

I could just tell.

We SPAM and spoke and I was like hey, so we should talk. She was really relaxed and like, uh oh this doenst sound good.

I was shaking, no camera on, I was like, I feel like you havent been completely honest or straight about whats going through your mind and I want to know. Lately ive been putting everything into the relationship, and ive been trying my hardest, and well youve been hard to read and deal with lately. I never thought I would have this conversation with you because I know how good we were and I cannot believe it came to here. I continued, you keep saying that you don’t know what to focus on, your exams, me, your family and your trying to prioritize things and it shouldn’t be like that at all. It should be I want to talk to my bf and then study and so on. You’re a great girl, and I don’t want to be selfish with you, I want you to focus on your exams.
I was like, well I guess what im saying is we don’t have to talk in the next month, and you can see me when im back in a month. And she was like, can you turn on your camera, and im like, nope, you can see me a month.

After she said some things she was like, ahh youre such a good guy you don’t deserve this, I know I have been acting like that lately. I feel like I have known you my whole life, I care for you, you know that right?

Then she was like, what if I realize in 2 days I made a mistake, and I was like, well youd fight for it. And then I was like, see there it is, right now you aren’t fighting for it, you say you care for me, and that’s fine, but its not like you are fighting for it so I feel like im doing the right thing, even though this is hard to do.

It went on, and i was like, okay well you know what ill give you some time to yourself, you can do as you please, and she is like, are you breaking up with me, and im like... im not defining it. actions speak louder than words, you can do as you want the next few weeks. And she is like, so this is a break? And I said, again im not defining.

She was so calm and relaxed, I wanted the freaking out and like are you serious. But I KNEW 100% she was going to do this to me if I didn’t with her. I feel like shit right now, wondering if she will come back.

After she was like, you know im going to talk to you right? Like I care for you and im going to talk to you. And I said ok, and she was like, will you reply, and im like, we will talk when we talk. And she just looked at me in the camera (hers was on).

Then she was like, well this is awkward, and I was like, I know youre going out next two weeks, have fun, do as you want, I wont judge, and she was like, yes you will, and im like, no I wont. And she looked at me, and was like, okaayyy, well have fun in school and do well on your exams, and I was like thanks.

She kept starring into the camera and I clicked the button…

End call


I know she has SPAM three friends since this...

what do you think, i hate this

I think like, you know like fail.

Oh yeah, she's playing hard -- she's playing hard to dump you. Yet you act like a freak and keeps coming back for more abuse, torture and then more abuse. By now, she thinks you're a freak and a fun freak to poke around. Thankfully for her, you are miles away from her. You are not reading our advice. You are just cherry picking what you need and apply them to your conversation cause you're desperate to get her back.

It's sad that you could have recovered earlier if you had listened. Now, it's hopeless.

Take care.

Not bad...I give you a 7/10.... You could have worded it slightly better...but well done!
Too be honest though it doesn't really sound like she cared that much by her responses, like "ahh youre such a good guy you don’t deserve this"...in other words she is glad to finally get rid of you...there were no signs of "remorse" for her, since she likely lost ALL attraction for you by this point...so I'm afraid to say this is over (at least for her) now

I'd personally have put it like this...."ok it's time we had a serious talk (stern look)....I don't have time for this anymore- you cold then hot, cold then hot...you either want me or you don't...I won't tolerate anymore games...I also WILL NOT tolerate you disrespecting me, by insulting my masculinity (or lack thereof), like you saying "you're the man of the relationship" just because Iv'e CLEARLY been investing more in it than you (and which I realise now was all a BIG mistake), because I DO NOT think you deserved it and feel you took it for granted...I will also NOT tolerate you "thinking about cheating on me"....if you want to FUCK around, go ahead...I don't really care that much anymore...I don't know if I "love you" anymore...I really need some time to think (a month at least)...Will keep in touch....hang up

That would DEFINITELY make her think TWICE about how much of a MAN you REALLY are!

This would have had the following POWERFUL effects on her:

1. It shows her that you are a MAN who respects himself and expects respect of others and WILL NOT tolerate disrespect- it shows her that you will not tolerate her games or her even THINKING about "cheating on you" (how dare she).
2. It shows her that you have fallen "out of love" with her, when many other guys are probably falling "head over heels" for her (major rejection)
3. It shows her you are no longer "needy"
4. It shows her that you "loving her" should have been more appreciated and NOT taken for granted, since you ONLY invest your "love" in really special girls whom you feel deserve it and NOW she will have to work REALLY hard to earn your love EVER again (but you haven't verbalized it- she will get the message since she sounds smart enough)

If you REALLY want this girl to fall for you again (and tbh she really doesn't sound worth the effort- NO woman is) and it also sounds like she has lost ALL attraction for you, so it will be VERY difficult, YOUSERIOUSLY NEED TO HARD NEXT her!!! and I mean HARD!!! DO NOT CONTACT HER UNTIL THE DAY BEFORE YOU MEET UP WITH HER AND IGNORE ALL HER CALLS AND TEXTS!!!

You NEED to give her time to miss you and you will be starting "afresh" when you do meet up again with the new-found "tools of seduction" you now have to REALLY "seduce" her and to make her BEG for your cock in her mouth.

When you do meet up with her HATE FUCK HER INTO OBLIVION!!! Treat her like a fucking RAGDOLL- pull her hair, force her head on your dick (make the bitch gag), spank her HARD on the ass, fuck her HARD in the ass, as well as the pussy (even if she says no)....I'm serious!!...You need to make her YOUR "bitch", not the other way around....

I dont understand, I followed all the advice. I broke it off with her, I Hope she comes back. Like I am literally praying that she comes back to me.

I was thinking of blocking her on SPAM so I dont appear, like it doenst give a time and date that i was last logged in and say I am online or not, maybe that would really give her the impression that I am gone.

Mike, why do you say its over, when I just broke it off WITH HER. She might come back around and be like fuck he is really gone.

This is destroying me and I am not eating and I am always thinking about it hoping she messages me, checking my phone.

Do you think its done, that she wont think twice about it at all?

She goes out this friday, and next friday.... fuck

??

You need to let go... It sounds like this situation is making you actually sick.

A far more experienced poster than I, Heywood Jablowme told me something that stayed with me when I made a topic about a relationship going sour:

"No woman is ever worth how you're feeling now"

Think about it, interpret it how you will. For me, it means two things; 1. Getting in this much of a state over one woman isn't healthy and 2. If you're feeling this way, then the relationship is wrong anyway.

Do a disappearing act! Block her on Facebook and Twitter, and if you can still see her twitter, then you can actually disable your computer from accessing that website, which is what I have done before to get over someone. That will get her wondering.

It's a win-win situation! Either you move on, heal and come back stronger and wiser, or you get a chance at getting her back (and crumbling into the same unhealthy cycle all over again.)

Also, read this:

http://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/commen ... n_contact/

Surely she will miss me. We spoke every single day. Surely she will miss that right and want it back?

The whole point of nexting her is to MAKE her MISS YOU. Her missing you will subconsciously also make her MORE ATTRACTED to you, which is what you also want- her begging for your dick in her mouth. Just next her, ignore her completely, move on, and date/fuck OTHER women until you two meet up. Leave it at that. I'm serious!!