Do I pass the test if I txt her or do I fail if I am the first one to initate the txt/call?

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When she's guessing, you're safe. When she thinks you're safe, you're dead.

lol, umm yah I was planning on making this my LTR. Please let me know what im doing wrong..

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When she's guessing, you're safe. When she thinks you're safe, you're dead.

yah I guess I could say this is my first "real" gf and yes I do like her and want it to work. How should I handle this? what should my mind set be?

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When she's guessing, you're safe. When she thinks you're safe, you're dead.

In my opinion.
Relationship issues, shouldn't be discussed, or ask for help. Why? Because everyone is different, yes there are certain "stereotypes" or "patterns" ...
But you have to trust your gut.. or your heart..
Text her, but don't text her waiting for a response, don't make her feel forced to respond you.
My girlfriend is usually VERY cold on txt messages and on MSN, but I see her everyday at school, so its not a matter, sometimes she'd take 40 mins to reply just with an "Ok".. or a very short message, sometimes, she woulnd't reply.
I actually told her yesterday Im not gonna send her anymore texts because she doesn't reply, and she says she just doesn't know what to tell me next (I.E She's nervous)...
But she told me "Send me messages, I like your messages" ...
The point here is ...
Think with YOUR heart. You know her, we don't ... text her something like ...
"Its so hot outside, kinda makes you wanna take off your clothes " ...
You're not asking her anything, she may even get a laugh ...
Don't make her feel forced to answer you, or it will put stress on you. I personally don't text unless its to set up a date...
I don't chat through txt messages, I find it silly, and stupid ... not being able to see her reactions, same with messengers...
When I text her, I tell her just a random silly fact.
I once sent her a text saying "Congratulations" to which she replied "my love, you urgently need that eye exam done, now you're even confusing your text messages" then I answered "It wasn't a mistake, I was thinking of you, so congrats!" then she said "oh thanks! if you only knew how many times a day I think of you. you'd be surprised" ...
See.. I'm not asking her anything, I just want to let her know something, and she replied cuz it was a "cute" message ...
Don't call her everyday, don't "report" yourself everyday ...
Text her when she leasts expect it ...
Soon she'll be texting you, when she starts to fall in love for you.

Hobitar, I like that quote. Yes I do tend to get oneites but I hide it well to women. I think I will ask her out for dinner some time this week and then talk to her about it. Thanks for the input

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I hear you.

Sometimes girls like the guy to take charge. She's one of them. Bring it up at a later time if necessary.
Bring it up at a later time, if appropriate.
WRONG ANSWER.
And she gave you a second chance. What a babe.
"Well sure"?!?!?
The fuck kind of answer is that?

And you failed to answer correctly twice.
RED FLAG.
Ok, so talk to her about it before the problem festers inside of you.
You DONT want that. Trust me, you dont.
Talk to her about it, APPROPRIATELY.

Bring it up discreetly, and under a positive vibe.

Gauge her answer. It's not about winning the arguement; it's extracting information while keeping her happy.

Gather as much information as the moment allows, then transition the vibe to something like "Did you see that big tree that fell on the neighbor's dog yesterday?"

Stop getting emotional. You sound like a vagina.

It could be a test in her eyes, only she knows. If I were you just pretend your in her area, for a short time, say your around on a certain day, if she fancies a quick drink, but you can't stay long. Don't mention the last few days or so without contact, it'll keep her wondering.

You're thinking too much about how to be an alpha, in my opinion.
Relationships and game are very different.

If you want to text her, text her, but if she doesn't text you a lot then she probably doesn't like texting and you will probably just annoy her.

Just text her saying small stuff, make hang outs, etc.

And most girls don't plan hang outs too much. You should be happy that she's willing to do what you decide. Drop the 'i dont care' front, because you do care. Relationships aren't about games. That's what ruins them. The only thing you need to do in a relationship is don't act like a needy wuss, listen, and be heard.

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Im going to go with the 'get a drink while im in her are and casualy bring it up.


rune - You said I answered wrong.. please elaborate, what was the correct answer?

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When she's guessing, you're safe. When she thinks you're safe, you're dead.

Doesn't matter what the correct answer is now; the situation's over.

Next time, remember the following:

1)Build the vibe.
2)It's not WHAT you say, but HOW it's said
3)Stop thinking.

If you follow those 3, and understand them 100%, I will tell you...you are ENSURED success.

Rune - If your going to tell me wrong answer and then that you see a RED FLAG please go into more detail. I would like to know more about this, and the correct answer would give me a better idea on this.

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