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Recognise that girls will act like a child if you let them get away with it.
Example: You start arguing over something and it spirals out of control because you try to use logic (masculine) to argue with irrational emotions (female). Eventually your girl realises she is losing the argument and causes drama by crying, storming out of the room, slamming doors, refusing sex, guilt-tripping (don't you love me?), lock herself in the bathroom and in extreme cases will threaten to jump out of the window or open the door of a moving car (only happened to me once luckily). The mistake I used to make was I would stop being angry and I would comfort the girl and say 'there there' until she stopped crying. This is how women control you. Usually you don't give a shit and carry on as normal until she causes drama, then you cave in and say "Ok ok, fine you can go to Ibiza with your girlfriends without any panties without me". So you are REWARDING her BAD behaviour, so she learns the only way to get her way is to cause drama, she finds your weak point and exploits it. When you look at it that way its just as much your fault for teaching her that bad behaviour is rewarded with hugs and holidays. Girls learn to do this to their dads from as young as 4 or 5 years old; they are veterans by the time they start dating. The moment you realise you're being blackmailed, you should leave and say "We can discuss this another time if you're prepared to be mature and reasonable about it". Ignore all threats that she will leave you. Let her leave, she's not worth keeping if she will walk out on you at the drop of a hat anyway. In most cases, the threat is usually an empty one to get her way. Then come back a few hours or a few days later depending on how extreme her overreaction was.
Now onto rewarding which is far more important than punishing. When your girl makes you nice food, puts effort into her appearance to look sexy for you, gives you an amazing blowjob, compliments you, does all your chores for you, you reward her with affection, sex, romance etc. Not when she DEMANDS affection, but when she has EARNED it.
Stop trying to "solve" or "fix" a woman's problems with a practical solution, this won't make sense to them.
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Well reading what you have said it seems like I am doing exactly that for the last several months. I know when she has a tantrum and says she will leaving she wont follow through. I even call her out on it from time to time. I definitley dont give in and let her have her way. Things have changed a bit and she does act more mature than before knowing that I wont give in to her BS. The only thing I have not learned to do is not react to the drama. I guess in the heat of the moment when all of the rational arguments have been tossed out the window to her 'drama' and she just starts acting on 'emotion' and grasping at straws I generally lose my cool. It is so hard to not engage in the drama myself when it gets to the boiling point.
Any advice on that?