@Decessum, I agree with Paul_T's advice. But it is a little easier said than done.

Can I ask? What is your intentions for this girl? Is she so hot and great to you (besides this issue) that you want to marry her and father her children?

If not, and she's just a hot, outgoing girl that gets a lot of attention? Then you've got to try and just enjoy the ride, for as long as the relationship lasts.

It's cool that flirting with other girls boosts your confidence. But if this is your girlfriend, that should also be a source of great confidence for you! As Paul_T said, she's avoiding other guys and coming home to you every night, right? Work on your inner game. Meditate every day. Visualize the experiences you want to have with this girl and make them happen.

Flirt but do not cheat. It does boost your ego/self confidence
-Cheating leads to guilt and either:

-she will find out and you break up OR you will get married and keep it a secret (unless she stays in a relationship in in which case she has low self esteem and shouldn't be with her).

OR

- You find out she was cheating on you the whole time, in which case the whole relationship was a lie and you should have broken up with her a long time ago.

If you want to be with her, be with her and trust that she is not cheating.
If you cannot trust her, there is no reason to be with her.

Half the planet is female. I don't understand any guy who has nothing but male friends.

If she has a problem with you having friends that so happen to be women, then how much of a future do you think you have?

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I do plan on keeping this girl around in the future, if possible marry her. And you´re right, she´s not cheating, she´s always with me, so it shouldn´t be a problem for me!

To se7in: I was never planning on cheating, I don´t want to, and I don´t need to, and I am sure 100% that she hasn´t done it. Why? We´re basically from sunrise to sunset .. from 8 am to 12 am together, we do really spend all day together. So unless she sneaks out of her house at 2 am to go have sex with some other guy .. she´s not cheating on me.

The fact that always bothered me was not the thoughts if she was cheating or not, rather: ¨Why does she accept an invite, or gives the guys hopes if she´s with me¨

Ive thought of breaking all this up, but, am I really going to run away all because some stupid facebook messages? I know a lot of people here would say ¨Next, get a new girl¨.. Sure, you may all be good PUAS, but Im sorry I think that kind of attitude towards a relationship is coward´s way out.

Thanks!

Breaking up with her itsn't the cowards way out, the cowards way out is ignoring it until she eventually finds a guy who in her mind is higher value and then cheats on you, which i promise will happen if you dont nip this in the bud.

If you dump her this is what will happen

.you dump her all calm like you do it everyday, just say something like you are sick of putting up with her saying she's gonna meet other guys all the time and if it was the other way round she'd go mad so you're ending it
.you freeze her out until she texts or rings you first.
.she WILL ring or text you to talk about it, women hate being dumped
.you repeat that she has repeatedely crossed the line saying she's gonna meet these guys and you would rather be single then put up with it anymore
.she starts crying and swears to you that it wont happen again
.you believe her because everyone deserves a second chance and get back with her, if she does it again you dump her again

all this improving your inner game stuff whilst good in itself will not work if you are not prepared to end it if she steps out of line, she knows full well you wont dump her so whats stopping her cheating on you?

I gotta say, Paul T's initial response was dead wrong.

And League's original answer was dead right.

Are you gaming this chick, or in a relationship? If the latter, there's no reason for her not to tell guys she has a boyfriend. You need to ask yourself, why are you putting up with this if it bothers you. How would she feel if you failed to tell girls you have a girlfriend?

If you're worth keeping, you tell it like it is. Getting asked out is proof enough someone is interested in you. Do you want to be with a woman who can't look someone straight in the eye and say they are spoken for at the moment?

Tell her how you feel about it. If she doesn't quit, she's telling you how much she values you. If you've already done this, then league is spot on.

THIS.

My girlfriend is a massive flirt to the point where sometimes i feel like she actually giong with the dude. She just craves the validation and attention from guys i think my childhood issues with her dad (seriously). I always flirt along with other girls as well its just our nature we don't do it despite each other just how we are.

At first ut is hard to trust her considering her count is double mine. The attraction still stays high due to us both knowing we can get others

I don't know the history, but it does indeed sound like she is just flaking. Girls really do hate turning guys down; it hurts to be rejected, and if she is a nice girl, she doesn't want to hurt anyone.

Also, there is nothing more awkward than her saying to the guy "Actually, I have a boyfriend." and for him to respond "...that's... awesome. but I'm not asking you on a date.."

That being said, if it is OBVIOUS that she is being asked out on a date (and I don't mean it's obvious to you and her, but if it's actually STATED in as many words by the guy who is asking her) and she is saying maybe, DUMP HER. I mean it right now text her tell her its over and go find another chick.

And if she came crawling back to me, and started seeing me again, I wouldn't take it seriously. I'd know I'd have some more fun with her for a while and I'd be looking for other girls all the while.

One things pretty clear to me here, you aren't comfortable with her talking/flirting with guys that are interested in her. If you were, you wouldnt be posting this.

Now, the problem is you are worried that you are wrong. Be confident that you are right, don't let her convince you that its harmless. If you are uncomfortable with it, then walk away.


That being said, you need to do what makes you happy. If you are worrying about this enough you can either change your view on it, or change the girl. I think changing the girl is a hell of a lot easier and you wont be settling.

Just tell her you don't think shes a bad person, but you want a girl that wants to show you off because you know youre a prize. No guy she meets shouldnt hear about you. Tell her you want a break and that maybe things will be different down the road. Tell her you had a great time with her and learned a lot, and go your seperate ways. Don't get one-itis for her, game new girls, and start seeing whats out there again.

If you aren't enjoying meeting new girls and looking for one who wouldnt accept dates, then she'll be back, as long as you freeze her out and get busy and game.

Good Luck. Ultimately, do what makes you happy. If you say you could marry this girl think about how youd feel if she took her ring off when she went out. Thats essentially what she's doing.

If she needs to feel single and get hit on for a minute just to be confident than shes not a keeper.

Plenty of fish in the sea man, and you can get whoever you want, so don't settle.