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This is very interesting indeed, but I feel like unless you pull it perfectly she may feel manipulated if she's smart enough.
The pattern itself is just an example, you can say it in any way you want, it's just an excuse to use those commands or any other that promote self confidence, courage, etc.
The tone of your voice, eye contact and intensity are the difference IMO. Said in an innocent, inquisitive way without staring her down makes it fairly natural and there's no reason to be seen as manipulative, not by itself anyway.