Hey guys, my name is mak-T and i live in south africa. Im 18 years old and its my last year in high school. I have been living an arwkward life in school and i have been trying to change it my whole life. I was introduced to the pua community by a friend of mine. I have been reading books like The game, and some ebooks. I only had 2 girlfriends in my life, of which i never kissed. I am a fairly short, black guy. I am an aspiring graphic designer and fine artist. My goal for this year is to bring a hot gf to my school for my matric dance( senior prom) and also have a nice relationship. I want to prove to myself that i can. I still need a little motivation though, because last year i approached sum chick at our school and there was a lot of hype in my class for that, and i messed up in front of her, i felt torn and broken, agggggg the pain i felt when some dudes grab her by her waste and sweep her off her feet. I have become a slightly better me tho, but i havent reached my goal yet.
I feel ignored by hotter girls sumtymes. I think my voice plays a part in that. I have a light voice. Girls do find me cute, i have a a couple of friends who are female, but i have difficulty trying to step my game up with girls i want as girlfriends, i get nervous. I hate talking a lot about this cuase i feel hopeless. all i want to say lastly is that, I hope u , the pua forum, will help me on my quest for success.

Hey man welcome to the forum! Cant believe I found another South African on this forum haha I just want to know somethings though, how did you manage to have 2 girlfriends even though you didnt kiss either of them?

Alot of people feel hopeless when also start out in PU but once you get into the stuff and see whats possible it will change your life man trust me I've been there. I missed my matric dance so I'm holding thumbs that yours will be better than mine (I broke my ankle 4 days before)

If you want to seem dominant or just alpha infront of women, read some Alexander Technique on how to demonstrate higher value (DHV) and that should give you some idea of what you might be looking for? I could be wrong.

Remember man... "be the change you wish to see in the world!"

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Hey man i never thought there'd be a South African in this forum, wow so cool. Im happy that im not alone here, So wat was ur reason for being in this forum? how long have u been in the Pua game?

OH and...
To answer that question on not having to kiss my ex's, my first gf was a thing of her wanting me, we was in grade 7, and i didn't actually feel her. I did not kiss her because i was too afraid of what would happen if id make a mistake though cause she was kinda popular in school. I was such an idiot. My second gf i had late last year till early this year and she was a girl i met on mxit. I liked her and i tried kissing her on my first meeting with her, and she didn want to kiss. Then i started to not like her for doing that to me (made me nervous ). She did start liking me tho, but i was afraid of moving into kissing again.

Yeah man, I'm in the game to get my 1st kiss, get a girlfriend, become extremely confident in myself, improve my lifestyle, have many female friends...alot of things man. I've kind of hung around a shitty circle of friends my entire life and I wanna change it by just getting new ones and creating a better life for myself I've been in the game for about 4 years but only starting to fully learn and appreciate what PUA's are teaching today and applying it to myself, its going great. I've only approached twice and gone on one date since (no kiss or gf). I've learnt so much already and I've got a busy day tomorrow approaching and destroying my AA (I only fly solo for now).

What you got from that girl you met on mxit, is what is called LMR (Last Minute Resistance). The reason she didn't want to kiss you is because you didn't build up enough attraction with her on the date and for that she wouldn't give you the kiss you wanted. It wasn't her it was you for not escalating and building attractive qualities allowing her to invest in you man. Sorry if thats a little harsh but thats the bottom line. Also, the thing about popular girls is that if she all good to go for you kissing her, she might have been high maintenance. Meaning, that if you dont have an Alpha Male or dominant quality about yourself and display that to others around you she might perceive you as weak and she will have 2nd thoughts and leave you for some bigger or Alpha type gent who can protect or just give off a vibe like you are completely comfortable in her presence. Popular girls want guys with the same qualities as them or at least close to them. Like popular girls have confidence, flare, superiority, status, style, charisma etc...if you can incorporate those things into yourself might be able to land another popular girl another day.

Just my thoughts.

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Thanx dude, u r the biggest boss man I have encounterd the word LMR before but i never took the time to try avoiding it in situation. Thanx a million. And I think il also look into DHV techniques too.
thanx man.
Make sure u reach your goal man. Widen that social circle and get ur kiss. yeah

Thats the spirit dude! Learn to DHV and how to avoid LMR man its key in your game, let me know how it goes yeah?

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Wow... other South Africans I'm from Pretoria!! Anyway I started PUA in grade 7, it didn't work so well back then, Try telling a girl in grade 7 that you care about what she has to offer more than her looks..But I studied all of the books I could find and practised a lot as soon as I went to high school, at first it was a mess and confusing, but it becomes clearer as you progress and now it's really paying off.

Good luck with finding that girl for your matric dance.. And good luck with learning PUA remember this forum is there to help you.

Yeah man haha! So are you still in school? What books have you been studying I assume you've read The Game yeah?

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Finishing school this year. And Yes by accident I found it on the internet, and read it. The game is what introduced me to the community and got me started.

I really never thought that there would be more South Africans.
But where in SA are you coz game changes in different places.

yo i never thought ther'd be more South African guys into the PUA community!. From your sides, do yal think that game changes from place to place? I mean the people i know that are naturals in the game are often super direct and that takes a lot of guts! like do yall have any idea?

Hey welcome fellow short(ish) dude. Soon you'll know the satisfaction of out-flanking a guy that's nearly a foot taller than ya and straight into a girls pants.

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I think Game does change in different countries or places in my opinion. I mean look at Style's routines and openers, they are too american and widespread to be used anywhere else. South Africa I know there is alot of potential for new stuff. I know there are PUA bootcamps in JHB and CT but I have to see how others use PU in SA in the clubs and whatnot, would be interesting

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vicparkguy83- thanks for the welcome, i saw u r from australia, so u think that game in australia is any different to american game?

And O'Ryan, i get what u saying cause some american ways are just too...american

guys any ebooks on DHV and Alpha male projection i can look at?

Mak-T if you want a good book on DHV and alpha male status, have a look at David DeAngelo's books, if you want good projection on the alpha status give Double You're Dating a read

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